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I’m Talking About Your Pastor And That Other Guy

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I’m Talking About Your Pastor And That Other Guy

He’s God’s gift to you and your church. His office as Pastor is to be honored, and I personally thank you for loving him.

On occasion, your Pastor will invite a guest speaker or an evangelist. He wants you to like them and enjoy their ministry. It’s a compliment to his good judgment of preachers and ministries if you do.

Where there becomes an issue that is uncomfortable for your Pastor and his friends is when you give the guest preachers nicer and more frequent compliments than you give to your own Pastor.

After all, he’s the one that worries over you, prays for you, counsels with you and answers to God for you. Not the others. They may like you, they may like you a lot, but there is a line that must be drawn between them and you.

Make sure you give better compliments to your own Pastor than you do to anyone else.

It’s kind of like a man giving another woman a compliment and he doesn’t even compliment his own wife. Something is very wrong in their relationship. Something is very wrong with your relationship with the Man of God if you are guilty concerning this.

A seasoned evangelist can often spot those that have a problem with their Pastor and then try to give the guest the personal attention and honor that belongs to their Man of God.  That is just so wrong.

It even gets more complicated than this.

There are many Godly, precious people who dearly love their Pastor and would never knowingly do a thing to injure him. In innocence they attempt to interact with another preacher they admire and sometimes feel put off or hurt because of the lack of warmth in his response to them. Actually, in good conscience, he can’t. So don’t take it personal. He does like you and appreciate you, he’s just trying to be careful.

In the day of Facebook, emails and text messaging, don’t try to personally interact with other preachers (unless they are family or life long friends) no matter how much you like them. It becomes quite an uncomfortable position for ‘ethical minded’ preachers.

Don’t expect him to respond to your emails, or private messages. His loyalty is to your pastor. Do you realize that if word got out that an evangelist was having conversation, exchanging emails, phone calls, private messages on Facebook, and text messages with saints, that his days as an evangelist are numbered? It’s not right for you or him. Don’t give him your information and don’t let him give you his.

Any contact with other preachers should be directed through your Pastor. If he sees fit to pass your message or request on, then fine. If he doesn’t, then trust his judgment. He knows what he’s doing and why. Your spiritual safety is his greatest concern. Work with him on that.

Guest preachers that ‘work the crowd’ by lingering long with each saint and learning personal things about their world should raise everyone’s eyebrows. Most evangelists know to stay on the platform after service or near the Pastor for proprietary’s sake.

If you don’t understand why, imagine you as a woman contacting, calling, writing or leaving messages for a male acquaintance of your husband.  Or maybe it’s him calling you. Your husband would have serious questions for you both, and rightly so.

If he didn’t run when you called, then if he has even part of a conscience, he would not be comfortable anymore around your Pastor because of guilt. He’d know he had crossed the line of ministerial ethics. His days would be over. It’s not worth it for him or you.

If you love your Pastor then protect him. Protect how he feels about you. Protect his relationship with other preachers. Protect yourself. He’ll love you all the more for it too.

On his behalf, I thank you.

Written by Martyn Ballestero

May 21, 2010 at 3:50 pm

Posted in Ministry

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  1. Amen.

    Kevin Archer

    May 21, 2010 at 4:46 pm

  2. THIS SHOULD BE REQUIRED READING FOR ALL OF OUR LOCAL AND GENERAL LICENED PREACHERS, WHEN THEY APPEAR BEFORE THE DISTRICT BOARD, FOR LICENSING.
    AND, IT WOULD BE GOOD IF ALL PASTORS WOULD READ THIS TO THE SAINTS NEXT SUNDAY. AND, EVERY EVANGELIST SHOULD READ THIS AND PRACTICE IT.
    And, just think …… This is from an EVANGELIST.

    Howard H Davis

    May 21, 2010 at 7:38 pm

    • Thank you Bishop. I hope preachers and saints get an understanding of ministerial ethics. I appreciate your affirmation.

      mballestero

      May 21, 2010 at 10:57 pm

  3. Excellent blog… I would like to add that organizational officers should follow such ethical guidelines as well. I am a district presbyter and can speak freely concerning this. No offical has a right to speak or communicate with members of another Apostolic church so long as they are preaching truth. If contact is made the pastor must be contacted directly and divulge the content of the communication. Thanks for reminding us of this.

    Gerald Adams

    May 21, 2010 at 8:22 pm

  4. Excellent post as always Bro. Ballestero!

    Willie Cox

    May 22, 2010 at 2:32 am

  5. Excellent…

    I agree…this should be required reading by every Apostolic…..every other day:)

    Jim Parker

    May 23, 2010 at 5:38 pm

  6. Elder Ballestero,

    I hope this is copied, pasted, repeated, published, republished, emailed, iterated and reiterated far and wide. If this is simple concept is widely published and received – you will have done a great service to many pastors, evangelists, ministers-in-training, and saints of God.

    Thank you!

    -Bro. Connell

    Peter F. Connell

    May 23, 2010 at 5:41 pm

  7. Great words…always great stuff from you Elder…

    Kris Keyes

    May 23, 2010 at 6:52 pm

  8. I agree wholeheartedly!

    I wish this were preached more often…

    Caleb Adams

    May 24, 2010 at 8:36 am

  9. Elder, this is excellent!! You can preach for me anytime you want!!

    Seth Mena

    May 24, 2010 at 1:31 pm

  10. Ezcellent instruction! Thank you.

    surjanto tirtabudi

    May 25, 2010 at 7:43 am

  11. Bro. Ballestero,

    I would like to thank you for living that article while you were at our church for 6 weeks.

    Thank you my friend!

    Michael Chuppe

    February 23, 2014 at 11:31 pm

    • Thank you. I love and honor you Friend. Thank you for your gracious treatment and great fellowship.

      Martyn Ballestero

      February 23, 2014 at 11:43 pm

  12. A man of integrity expounding words of ethics to us. Thank you Bro. B. P.S. Hope your above that 500 calorie a day limit you had set for a while! God Bless You.

    Jeff Lawrence.

    February 27, 2014 at 12:07 pm

  13. We only have one Heavenly Father, but we have all been begotten through the Gospel. Begotten by various ministries, I owe my allegiance to the man of God in my life. Anyone that would proselytize is no man of God at all, But a thief.
    Very Good Elder!!

    Young J.A.Perez

    December 23, 2015 at 3:15 am


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