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Saying, “Thank You” And Responding In Kind… For Husbands And Wives.

By Marcia And Martyn Ballestero

What is your response when someone you love says, “I love you”?

• (“I love you too!” is the expected and best reaction.)

What is your response when he tells you that you are beautiful?

• (“Ok,” is not acceptable.)
• (“Don’t disqualify his compliment.)
• (Don’t roll your eyes.)

Respond with something like,

• “You’re so sweet!”
• “Thank you Babe!”

What is your response when he comes up from behind, while you are washing dishes and he gives you a quick smooch on the cheek?

• (“What was that for?” is the wrong response!)
• (“What do you want now?” is a bad reaction, that will hurt!)
• (These are responses that stop affection in marriage.)
• (Why couldn’t you have turned to him and kissed him back? He was trying to be sweet.)

What is your response when he gives you a little pat?

• (Acting too bothered to appreciate the attention or pulling away will stop his affection.)
• (The least you could do is smile!)
• (For a bonus, say ,“I love you!”)
• (Pat him back sometime.)

What is your response when you are sitting in your lazy-boy chair reading, and she brings you a snack without you asking?

• (Grunting is an uncouth caveman’s response! Never do that.)
• (“Thanks Baby, you’re just the best!” is always good.)
• (Surprise her with an unexpected act of service.)

What is your response when your spouse washes your clothes and folds them and puts them in the drawer and you just now noticed?)

• (Ignoring an act of love would be taking your partner for granted)
• (“Thank You very much.” Will go a long ways)
• (Think of something nice to do back to them)

What is your response when you receive a compliment you don’t feel you really deserve?”

• (Ignoring it is a slap in the face.)
• (Wrinkling your nose, and shaking your head no is ignorant and immature.)
• (Realize they are saying it to you because that’s how they feel, so say “Thank you!”)
• (Smile and be humble.)
• (Find something to compliment them on… try hard if necessary.)

What is your response when you are sitting on the couch working on something you think is important and your wife chooses that moments to sit beside you, touch you and kind of snuggles up close?

• (Acting irritated or ignoring her is a sign of stupidity.)
• (Saying you can’t be bothered right now will turn off more switches than you have the power to turn back on.)
• (Whatever you are working on can wait. I’m very serious.)
• (Nothing in the world is more important to you than she is.)
• (PUT IT DOWN NOW!)
• (You will thank us later.)

What is your response when your wife needs to talk about something she feels is important?

• (Not stopping what you’re doing and looking into her eyes will not lead to a happy day.)
• (Always listen without seeming to be bored or aggravated.)
• (Don’t shut down and give the silent treatment.)
• (If the subject is heated, remember a soft answer turneth away wrath, and where there is no wood the fire goes out.)
• (If you’re guilty or have done something wrong. Humbly apologize.)
• (Use your inside voice when you speak.)

What is your response when you are kissed fully on the lips?

• (For crying out loud… If I have to answer that for you, you don’t deserve a spouse or to be kissed on the lips!)

Now Go Have A Blessed (Romantic) Day ❤️