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Out Of Context, But Still The Truth

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Out Of Context, But Still The Truth

With my Reader’s permission, I am attempting to take a scripture out of context to illustrate a point. Knowing that doing so is dangerous; I will try to be careful. The scripture phrase that caught my attention comes from Psalms ninety-one.

Psa. 91:6… the destruction that wasteth at noonday.

“The Destruction That Wasteth At Noon Day.”

The original meaning of the impending judgment in this verse gets obscured when I think of a secondary application.

The life of a man, I suppose could be loosely classified using three basic stages of life, Youth, Middle Age, and Old Age.

Adults understand that young people can make mistakes. With the maturing process sometimes come tears and maybe even a little heartache. Older folks sometimes look at a young person with problems and tell themselves, “They’ll grow out of it!” Most often, they do. It’s called maturity.

By the time a man is retired, and his hair has fallen out, he is expected to act like he has some sense. As Bill Cosby once quipped, “He’s an old man trying to get into heaven now.”

The middle-aged group, however, is my focus. Society has a term for a guy who ‘acts out’ or does something stupid when he is middle age. They call it a mid-life crisis. Pick up on the word crisis. To me, that crisis can be the ‘destruction that wasteth in the noonday’ of a man’s life.

Of late, I’ve heard way too many stories of such destruction. I understand that all of us go through hormonal changes before we die. It’s no secret. We know about it. We all know about it even before it happens. Even with all the warning signs, some men (occasionally a woman, but mostly men) surrender to their primal urges. They no longer think of family, church or God. All they can focus on is their own desire. They selfishly trade all their family’s future peace and joy for what they imagine is the ultimate pleasure.  The forbidden.

Why do some Spirit filled men ignore all the warnings and throw moral caution to the wind. I know some that made it through their youth and remained pure.  Then, they messed up when they got older. That’s pure stupidity. Right when you have the most to lose, you throw it away for a fling.

Look again at the faithful bride you were once were head over heals in love with. The one God gave you. You can’t afford to let her walk away! And your children! Man, are you crazy? How do you face your babies when they know you’ve just destroyed their home? What’s going to happen to them? You’ve just brought your own house down on top of yourself. It’s not worth it… ever!

Esau threw away a birthright for just one meal. Heb. 12:16 Lest there be any fornicator, or profane person, as Esau, who for one morsel of meat sold his birthright.

Don’t do anything stupid. Keep your flesh under subjection. It’s possible or God would not have required it. It’s what normal people do. It’s certainly what Spirit-filled people do. Die out to your carnal lusts. The Apostle Paul told us he did. He said he died daily. If Paul had too, we don’t have an excuse.

Every one has to keep their flesh under subjection and in control. Quit thinking that you are an exception. You’re not. Everyone’s flesh is weak. We all need God’s help. We also need to purpose in our own hearts to be faithful.

I can’t make you be faithful to your wife, sir. Ma’am, I can’t make you be faithful to your husband either. I sure can’t make you love each other. Actually, no one can make you do anything. The price you will pay for your personal pleasure will be greater than you could ever imagine. It will end in disillusion and shame.

There are three scripture verses encouraging men to love their wives.

  • The first one explains that she should be loved with all your heart.
  • The second scripture admonishes the husband to let go of the past problems in the relationship, and in spite of those hurts, love her!
  • The third one commands husbands to love their wife like they love themselves. If you don’t love your wife, then you don’t even love yourself.

Eph. 5:25 Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it;

Col. 3:19 Husbands, love your wives, and be not bitter against them.

Eph. 5:28 So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself.

Purpose in your heart to protect yourself and protect your family from the destruction that wasteth at noonday.

Be the man your wife needs you to be.

Be the man your children believe you to be.

Be the man God has called you to be.

Be a Man!

Written by Martyn Ballestero

April 27, 2011 at 12:52 am

Posted in Failure, Family, Love, Marriage, Regret

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The Best Thing I Can Do For You Is To Love You.

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The Best Thing I Can Do For You Is To Love You.

Some people are easier to love than others. Occasionally we encounter those that are critical, abrasive and even harsh. It doesn’t feel good. They seem to resist any and all expressions of kindness and goodwill. Their spirit is such that it is tempting to put a great distance between them and us.

It is easy to love those that love us back. There is warmth and comfort in friendships like that. The two-way street of Friendship is an easy road to travel. We feel wanted and even needed among loving friends and family.

Many of our letters, text messages, emails and phone calls to friends and family end with the “I Love You” salutation. Most of us find that easy to say. Yet we would never dream of saying that to some people.

There are those that we meet and they take an immediate dislike for us. Maybe they are just having a bad day and we just happened to cross their paths. I don’t know.

Others seem to focus their sights on us on purpose and take great exceptions to everything we do or say. It feels like we will always be wrong as far as they are concerned.

Do not fall into the trap of fighting them back, or God forbid, hating them. Bitterness consumes everyone one that allows it access.

It does not feel good to be hated, rejected or criticized. None of us want to be mistreated, persecuted or despitefully used. It’s painful to have our good name attacked or our ideology trashed. That makes our carnal nature want to rise to the defense. Then the war begins.

Too many of us spend our life doing battle with our enemies. How long do we let a war go on? The story of the Hatfield’s and the McCoy’s family feud maybe legendary, but it does not need to be repeated.

May we make up our minds to love one another. May we truly love those in our home and in our church. But God’s will is for our love to extend past those walls and reach into the lives of our enemies. May we love those that refuse to love us.

Jesus told us that there is no special reward in loving those that love us back. But He did require that we love those that were our enemies. He asked us to love them that refused to love us back.

He told us that if we wish to be called His child, we were required:

  • To Love Our Enemies.
  • To Bless Our Enemies.
  • To Do Good Things For Them.
  • To Pray For Them.

Matt. 5:43 Ye have heard that it hath been said, Thou shalt love thy neighbour, and hate thine enemy.

Matt. 5:44 But I say unto you, Love your enemies, bless them that curse you, do good to them that hate you, and pray for them which despitefully use you, and persecute you;

Matt. 5:45 That ye may be the children of your Father which is in heaven: for he maketh his sun to rise on the evil and on the good, and sendeth rain on the just and on the unjust.

Matt. 5:46 For if ye love them which love you, what reward have ye? do not even the publicans the same?

  • Feed Him If He’s hungry
  • Give Him Water If He’s Thirsty

Rom. 12:20 Therefore if thine enemy hunger, feed him; if he thirst, give him drink: for in so doing thou shalt heap coals of fire on his head.

  • Do we meet the requirements of sonship listed of Matthew 5:43-46?
  • Do we qualify as a child of the Father?
  • I pray we all do!

 

The Best Thing I Can Do For You Is To Love You.

The Best Thing I Can Do For Myself Is To Love You.

 

By The Way, I Love You!

Written by Martyn Ballestero

April 19, 2011 at 12:03 am

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