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When One Part Of Your Brain Hijacks The Other!

Quite a few years ago, I was told about a new book and curiosity made me want to read it. The problem was, I was a little short of cash and not sure I wanted to spend what I had on a book instead of eat lunch.

I stopped by our local Barnes & Nobles Bookstore and asked the lady if they had the book, Emotional Intelligence in stock. They did, so I looked at it a few minutes and then found a nice easy chair and began to scan the pages for a bit longer. I read about fourteen pages and then I laid the book down and began to ponder on what I had just learned. I’ve never forgotten.

The premise put forward was that we all have two brains. (I was glad to find that out. I have been told I didn’t even have one.)

The author said that we each have a brain that thinks and a brain that feels. Our life may be at peace and functioning well, but turmoil, pain and great consequences come to us when one of our brains hijacks the other.

He Explained It By Describing Murders And Murderers.

The Brain That Thinks

The brain that thinks can get out of balance and push all emotions and normal feelings aside. It will then ignore every soft and tender thought the person ever had.

• He feels his mind is superior and he won’t get caught.
• He refuses to think about regrets and the pain he will cause.
• He devises ways to lure, entrap, and murder his victims.

Society uses the term Cold Blooded, Premeditated Murder, with Malice Aforethought.

Serial Killers must plan, calculate and orchestrate their dastardly deeds while ignoring every emotion that would stop them. Their brain that thinks hijacks the brain that feels. Society is very happy to lock that person behind bars for the rest of their life. They experience no remorse.

The Brain That Feels

The brain that feels can become so overwrought with painful emotion that it takes matters into it’s own hands and goes into what it believes is an appropriate action.

A loving wife may find her husband in the arms of another and her brain that feels immediately hijacks the brain that thinks.

• She is not worried about consequences.
• She hasn’t got time, in her mind, to worry about the law.
• She can only think about the hurt she feels.

We call it a crime of passion. It was a spur of the moment action. Nothing was preplanned. Sometimes juries have been a bit understanding and even lenient in such cases.

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When A Husband Is Unfaithful To His Wife.

The part of his brain that thinks, has to ignore and hijack the brain that feels. Unfaithfulness is not a spur of the moment action.

The brain that thinks hijacks the brain that feels and he convinces himself that he is no longer in love with his spouse. He says, he doesn’t love her anymore and hasn’t for some time. He tells her that to prepare her for what’s to come. He finds illogical fault with her to justify himself.

She is devastated and angry, and rightly so. The children quickly notice changes in daddy’s behavior and they become defensive of their mother and afraid of this man they loved.

Think about the all the emotional, logical, and spiritual Stop Signs and Road Blocks an unfaithful husband must pass before he arrives at where he thinks he wants to go.

• Permitting thoughts about another woman to have access into mind.
• Letting those thoughts become lustful and pleasurable.
• Creating a moment where the two of them can actually meet and talk.
• Making plans to meet again.
• Making plans to leave and divorce his wife.
• Ignoring the fact that he has no Bible right to leave his wife for another.
• The sending of Text Messages.
• The Emails back and forth.
• The secret Cell Phone calls.
• Then Deleting those Messages and Emails.
• The actual clandestine meeting.
• Touching her for the first time.
• The first kiss.
• The Motel.

Look how many stop sign he has to ignore. Look how many roadblocks he must step over. It’s pre-meditated. It’s planned. The brain that thinks has hijacked the brain that once felt love for his wife and family.

Nothing about unfaithfulness is accidental. It’s planned. It thought out. The brain that feels for God, family, and future has just been hijacked.

It makes no difference if the unfaithfulness is emotional or actual… it’s sin and it’s wrong.

Matthew 5:27 Ye have heard that it was said by them of old time, Thou shalt not commit adultery:

Matthew 5:28 But I say unto you, That whosoever looketh on a woman to lust after her hath committed adultery with her already in his heart.

When his brain that thinks hijacked his brain that feels… He had to ignore every hurt and pain in his wife’s eyes, words and heart. He had to ignore the consequences for his actions. He had to ignore the damage he was doing to his home and his children.

• He had to push aside the loss of his standing with God.
• He had to ignore the loss of his participation in God’s Kingdom.
• He had to be willing to place his eternal salvation in jeopardy.

He had to arrive at a place that made him not think about how much he was throwing away.

He now had a new infatuation and he could not think about anything else but her; not even her husband or her children.

He must be proud of the fact that he is a thinker and has a high IQ. In his own mind, he is smarter than the others who are crying. He refuses to let any emotional connection with his own wife and children stop him from achieving his goals. They have only become baggage and now he wants to be free from them.

Although He Knows These Passages In Proverbs, He Totally Ignores Them.

Proverbs 6:23 For the commandment is a lamp; and the law is light; and reproofs of instruction are the way of life:
Proverbs 6:24 To keep thee from the evil woman, from the flattery of the tongue of a strange woman.
Proverbs 6:25 Lust not after her beauty in thine heart; neither let her take thee with her eyelids.
Proverbs 6:26 For by means of a whorish woman a man is brought to a piece of bread: and the adulteress will hunt for the precious life.
Proverbs 6:27 Can a man take fire in his bosom, and his clothes not be burned?
Proverbs 6:28 Can one go upon hot coals, and his feet not be burned?
Proverbs 6:29 So he that goeth in to his neighbour’s wife; whosoever toucheth her shall not be innocent.
Proverbs 6:30 Men do not despise a thief, if he steal to satisfy his soul when he is hungry;
Proverbs 6:31 But if he be found, he shall restore sevenfold; he shall give all the substance of his house.
Proverbs 6:32 But whoso committeth adultery with a woman lacketh understanding: he that doeth it destroyeth his own soul.
Proverbs 6:33 A wound and dishonour shall he get; and his reproach shall not be wiped away.
Proverbs 6:34 For jealousy is the rage of a man: therefore he will not spare in the day of vengeance.
Proverbs 6:35 He will not regard any ransom; neither will he rest content, though thou givest many gifts.

Proverbs 7:27 Her house is the way to hell, going down to the chambers of death.

When a husband becomes unfaithful. He is not the only one now with a problem. His selfish thinking and actions have immobilized all those around him that love him. His marriage is paralyzed and may never be restored. His children will never respect him for the way he selfishly walked out on them and their mother.

Later in moments of reflection, he is prone to think he is the only one who needs counseling and help. That thinking is either being naïve, stupid or stubborn. AA and Al-Anon both include the addict and their family in the process. What one person did, now has become a problem for all those who once loved him.

Where Does One Turn To For Guidance And Help With Improper Thinking?

There Is Not Much Hope For Restoration To A Once Godly Marriage Or To Having A Sound Mind Again, If God And His Word Are Left Out Of The Equation. Restoration Is Of The Lord.

Psalms 16:7 I will bless the LORD, who hath given me counsel: my reins also instruct me in the night seasons.

AMP: Psalm 16:7 I will bless the Lord, Who has given me counsel; yes, my heart instructs me in the night seasons.

If one of your brains has hijacked the other, God will bring release and restoration to your mind if you will turn to Him. He will deliver you. Refusing God’s intervention will only set you up for more devil’s play.

Sir: If There Is To Be ANY Hope Of Restoration In Your Marriage And In Your Walk With God, It’s Up To You To:

• Choose to repent to God, your wife, and pastor.
• Choose to let God’s Word and God’s man guide you into complete restoration.
• Choose to love your wife with all your heart.
• Choose to reassure her.
• Choose to be careful about your thoughts, feeling and interaction with the opposite sex.
• Choose to clear yourself from further suspicion.
• Choose to connect with your wife, family and God like you never have before.
• Choose to live for God and not throw your soul away.

May The Lord God guide your thoughts, your actions, and your motives every day and keep you from all evil and iniquity. May your heart tenderly guide you in all the night seasons.

Now Go Do The Right Thing!