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Is Your Ship Sinking?

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Is Your Ship Is Sinking?

No likes the thoughts of a ship sinking, especially if they are on board. The knowledge that it is sinking would surely bring reactions of horror and panic to us all!


Current Ship Sinking Statistics.

According to Wolfgang Rosenthal, the Senior Scientist with the GKSS Research Center, at least two large ships sink each week, or about 100 per year.

The same scientist also mentions that 200 super tankers or container vessels over 200m in length have sunk over the last 20 years, or 10 per year in this class of ship.

The sinking of most ships never seems to be investigated with the same fervor as an air crash.  Normally, the sinking of a ship is written off as a result of bad weather.


The Plimsoll Line

In the 1800’s, overloaded merchant ships often sank in stormy seas.  Over 500 English ships sank in one year alone. They were so overloaded with merchandise, that all it took was one good storm to sink them. Sailors sometimes called them ‘coffin ships’.

An Englishman named Samuel Plimsoll devised a means to calculate the capacity of a ship. He produced a formula that determined how much cargo each vessel could safely handle in stormy waters. He then  determined where to draw a line on each ship to mark its capacity.  The ship was to sit no lower in the water than the marked line and still be considered safe. For many years it was simply referred to as the Plimsoll Mark. In more modern times the name has been changed to The International Load Line.

Two different times in the New Testament, the Disciples had near death experiences. Their ships were on the very verge of sinking, but for different reasons.


A Ship Sinking Because Of The Storm.

Whether the ship is a cargo ship or a human life, they both face storms. Neither is exempt.

The beloved Disciples of Jesus encountered a life-threatening storm. Jesus was in the boat asleep. The waves were high and the winds were very strong. The boat began to take on water. So much water came into the boat that they all feared they would drown. Even with Jesus in the boat it looked like they were going under.


Luke 8:22 Now it came to pass on a certain day, that he went into a ship with his disciples: and he said unto them, Let us go over unto the other side of the lake. And they launched forth.

Luke 8:23 But as they sailed he fell asleep: and there came down a storm of wind on the lake; and they were filled with water, and were in jeopardy.

Luke 8:24 And they came to him, and awoke him, saying, Master, master, we perish. Then he arose, and rebuked the wind and the raging of the water: and they ceased, and there was a calm.


The Storms of Life Happen To Us all.

  • Financial Disasters
  • Home Foreclosure
  • Unemployment
  • Heart Ache
  • Moral Failure
  • Church Problems
  • Consequences of Bad Choices
  • Family Turmoil
  • Marriage Problems
  • Health Problems


Our minds readily grasp the concept that our personal ship of life can sink in a bad storm. It’s only God’s mercy and divine intervention that any of us are here today.

All it might take to sink our ship is one good storm. If you are loaded down with the cares of life, if you are loaded down with pressures, troubles, worries and fears, then be careful. Storms can happen. One good storm could sink you.

Even though we live for the Lord, that doesn’t mean we can avoid all storms. The only thing that kept the Disciples’ boat from sinking was that they called on Jesus. Call on Jesus still works today!


A Ship Sinking Because Of A Blessing.

The bad news can get worse. It is one thing to have your boat sink because of a storm, but there is also the possibility of your ship sinking because of a blessing. Imagine sinking in good weather with calm seas.


Luke 5:4 Now when he had left speaking, he said unto Simon, Launch out into the deep, and let down your nets for a draught.

Luke 5:5 And Simon answering said unto him, Master, we have toiled all the night, and have taken nothing: nevertheless at thy word I will let down the net.

Luke 5:6 And when they had this done, they inclosed a great multitude of fishes: and their net brake.

Luke 5:7 And they beckoned unto their partners, which were in the other ship, that they should come and help them. And they came, and filled both the ships, so that they began to sink.


Their ship was filled to overflowing with the largest catch they had ever gotten. And it started to sink. They did ask for help however, to keep them from sinking.

We pray almost all of our lives for God’s blessings. Some prayers for blessings are just generic in nature, I know. Yet there are some blessings we’ve prayed for that if we had gotten them, they quite possibly might have overwhelmed and sunk our little boat.

Imagine, our ship sinking because of a blessing! Some folks seem to be blessed with everything in life.

  • Jobs,
  • Money
  • Ability
  • Success
  • Power
  • Good Fortune
  • Position


Their financial and earthly blessings sometimes have caused their spiritual boat to flirt with disaster. Too many have sunk while their ship was loaded down with blessings.

The same God who knows how much storm your ship can handle, also knows how big a load of blessings it can handle too. Trust Him.

When the Disciples saw they were sinking, they chose not to go down quietly. They wished to keep their blessing and keep afloat at the same time. What did they do? They called for help! That lesson is 2,000 years old, but it is still good advice today.

Is Your Ship Sinking? It Doesn’t Have Too!


Written by Martyn Ballestero

June 24, 2011 at 12:04 am

Young Person, Is That The Best Deal You Could Make?

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Young Person, Is That The Best Deal You Could Make?


  • Some People are just awful in Business.
  • It’s just not their nature to bargain, barter, or make a good deal.
  • They always seem to get cheated.
  • They always lose money when they sell things.
  • Others easily take advantage of them.


Imagine Then:

  • Selling an heirloom at a yard sale for $1.00.
  • Being happy to unload a treasure, at a give-a-way price, then get pressured to take $.50 and do.
  • Later, you find out the real value and you are ashamed of your own stupidity!
  • You realize you acted like you were an Idiot!
  • You sold it too cheap!
  • You’ll spend your life with that regret.
  • You didn’t make the Best Deal You Could Make!
  • Did you think you would never find another buyer?  (Was it Seller’s Panic?)
  • Basically, it looks like you were willing to give it away, or you didn’t care.
  • To YOU it had no value, because you placed none upon it.
  • Was it because you don’t know the value or worth of your possessions?
  • How can you possess something for years and be clueless of its value?
  • If you inherited something, you may or may not be sure of its value.
  • That’s why you could always get an appraisal, or even a second opinion.
  • You take what you have to a knowledgeable party and say: 
  1. Tell me what it’s worth?  
  2. Is this junk or real. 
  3. An Heirloom or Trash?
  4. Then you believe what they said and never settle for less.
  5. Treat yourself the same way


What Am I Talking About? The Value Of You!!

  • You.
  • The Value Of You.
  • The Business of You on the Open Market.
  • And what worries me is that You may be settling for give-a-way price.
  • If so, YOU must not have any respect for yourself. 
  • Or any hopes you have of ever doing much for God.
  • Because you were willing to place an Heirloom in the same basket as the Trash.
  • Too blinded by the flesh, to see the value of God’s gift (call) in your life.


I’m Always Amazed At Good Boys And Girls Settling For Spouses With:

  • No spirituality.
  • No personality.
  • No signs of the Holy Ghost.
  • No common ground but fleshly desire.


And I Say To Myself.  “Was That The Best Deal You Could Make?”

  • “Why didn’t you go to your Pastor and get an appraisal?”
  • “ And then, believed him?”
  • “Why didn’t you go to your Parents and get an appraisal?”
  • “And then believed them?”


The Body’s Skin Is Only The Wrapping Of The Present.

  • Only an idiot would so fall in love with the wrapping, that they never want to open the gift and see what is on the inside.
  • It’s what’s on the inside that is of value.
  • Shallow people fall in love with the wrapping and not what’s inside.


You Look In The Mirror, And…

  • All you see of yourself is a nose you don’t like.
  • Ears that somehow are all wrong to you.
  • Zits that you just know will turn off the world.
  • A Shape or Build that’s far from pleasing in your eyes.
  • So you feel that because you are, for the moment unhappy with the wrapping, you think the inside must not be worth much either.
  • So you De-value yourself.
  • That’s the first step towards making a bad Business Deal in life.
  • Settling for some Carnal Companion for a Marriage Partner.
  • Settling for someone who is very wrong for you.
  • I ask again, Was That The Best Deal You Could Make?
  • I wish I could get you to believe that: “You are someone very special!”


Hey guys, if all you are interested in is a girls dress size, then that may be all you ever get. If you marry just for the wrapping, you might be disappointed with the present. But if you look deeper and marry what’s inside, you’ll not be sorry.

  • What makes a person of Value & Worth settle for someone who is shallow and empty?  (You are deceived if you think you will help them grow in God.  Let them mature and grow in God first and then consider marriage.)
  • What makes a person of Value marry some sorry outfit that won’t work and just sits at home plays his Sony Play Station or Xbox 360 all day and night?
  • What makes a person of Value marry someone who is half Psycho? Was that the Best Deal they could make?  Surely not.
  • What makes a person of Value marry someone who would rather do drugs than live for God?

Maybe you’re in a small home missions church and you love God. But there are just not many boys in your church.  You get desperate and feel like you are running out of chances to get married, so you grab the first person who smiles at you. Regardless if they are in church or out. Regardless if they are on fire for God or not. Don’t think you will marry them and then fix them or get them saved. The odds are against you.

What makes a person of Value meet some carnal Quail-head at a Conference or Camp, and fall for them. Then marry and leave a Great church to go to some dried up excuse for one. Their soul will not doubt dry up too, just because they thought this is the best they could do.

In my opinion, it’s better to be an old maid wishing you could get married, than to be a married woman wishing you were an old maid. It would be better to be a bachelor on fire for God, than to marry someone who will drag you out of church. Why would anyone want to spend the rest of his or her life saying, “Come on honey, go to church with me tonight. Pleeeeeze?”

God’s plan for your life involves great things for you and for His Kingdom. Don’t go hormonal stupid and mess up what Heaven has in store for you!


Let Me Talk About The Parents For A Minute!

Isaac and Rebecca set helplessly by as their son threw away his future and married women that brought grief to their hearts. Sadly, it still is happening today.

 (Gen 26:34)  And Esau was forty years old when he took to wife Judith the daughter of Beeri the Hittite, and Bashemath the daughter of Elon the Hittite:

(Gen 26:3V)  Which were a grief of mind unto Isaac and to Rebekah.

They were grieved because they knew Esau could have made a better deal and didn’t. But then again, this is the same man who made a bad deal in trading his birthright for a bowl of beans. Some people never seem to catch on.

I just happen to be the proud father of the most beautiful daughter in the world who is just as beautiful on the inside.  She is married to a great pastor that makes my heart proud as well. They are a wonderful couple that brings great joy to our family and me.

When my daughter Marisa was still single and living at home, it was not uncommon for young men to travel long distances just to come and see her. Pretty girls are worth seeing. They all hoped for a chance to win her affection. She did a good job filtering out the bad ones. (She got that gift and her good looks from her Mama.)

One time though, I didn’t give my daughter a chance to say no to a potential suitor. As the father, I became the filter and her personal defender.

She was about eighteen when a knock came on our front door one day. I opened the door and was very surprised. I did not know the young man, nor had I seen him before.  Neither had I ever heard him mentioned.

It looked like someone had set a bowl on top of his head and mowed around it leaving a black thick thatch of hair on top. He had a pierced lip, nose and an earring. His tongue was pierced too. His clothes looked soiled.

I nodded and said hello.

He gamely smiled and said, “Is Marisa Home.”

I looked him up and down real slow letting the smile leave me face. Then I looked him in the eye and with my no-nonsense voice I said, “Not to you, she’s not.)

The look of shock was still on is face when I closed the door.

Don’t even think about telling me I was rude or impolite. I am a Father. A Father’s job is to protect his family.

You don’t raise a daughter up to the age of eighteen and then throw her away to the first pair of britches that comes by. Neither do you raise up a son and throw him to the first skirt that rustles in his direction. Furthermore, you don’t let them throw themselves away either.

If all they hear from mom and dad is criticism and negativity about themselves, they may not value themselves very much either. You may have just set up your own child to make a bad deal in life.

Be thankful to God if your child is a good son or daughter. Brag on them, encourage them, guide them without nagging or harshness. Love them into making the right choices. Validate their achievements and right choices with praise.

Young Person. God did something special when He made you. Believe it, and never settle for anyone that would keep you from being what God meant you to be. His hand is on your life. Don’t take it off.

Written by Martyn Ballestero

June 2, 2011 at 6:35 pm

Oops, You Just Asked The Wrong Person!

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Oops, You Just Asked The Wrong Person!

Case #1

“Hey Larry, it’s me again, Dave. I hate to call you a second time in two hours, but you gave such good advice the first time and I need help again! This a real emergency this time, (but don’t tell anybody I called!)

I’m calling you again because that fishing hole you told me about was awesome! We’d nearly caught our limit after only fishing about 40 minutes. So I know I can trust you to give good advice. You wouldn’t steer me wrong.

“But while we were pulling them in, I got this call from the Chief ordering the Bomb Squad to handle a ‘situation” at the High School. Since I am the squad leader on the team, it’s my job to defuse the bomb they found in the principal’s office.

“I need you to give me some advice. What I need to know is do I cut the red wire or the blue? It’s very important. If I cut the wrong wire, it will blow up. The timer says I have 2 minutes and 14 seconds left.

“I’m embarrassed to ask anyone in the Department. They would fire me for not knowing.

“I know I can trust you. OK, red, or blue? A lot of lives are depending on this!”

Case #2

“Tom, I’m in Surgery right now. And I’ve run into an issue here. We’ve been in OR for 3 hours already and I’ve got patient with a tumor behind their left eye. I think it might be malignant. It’s attached itself to the back of the eyeball.

“You’re my brother-in-law and my best friend. A lot is on the line here. I don’t want the patient to lose their sight. I sure don’t want to be sued for malpractice, am well aware of Xarelto lawsuit news.

“Do you know offhand, should I try to remove the tumor, or just leave it and opt for radiation?

“Also… the horizontal limb of the intraparietal sulcus begins from the junction of the lower and connects with the middle third of the postventral sulcus and curves backward parallel to the longitudinal fissure, midway between it and the parietal eminence. Do you know if that is normal?

Some nurses and a couple of doctors are watching here. I got to do something quick. Whatever you say, I’ll do it.”

Case #3

“Betty, I’m glad you came. I’m trying to make chicken and sausage gumbo for supper, and I need help making the roux. I’ve somehow lost my mother’s recipe and no one else seems to know.

“Also, I would like to make a Crème Brule for desert. Can you help me?”

“I’m sorry ma’am,” says a little voice, “I’m just selling Girl Scout Cookies door to door. Besides, I’m only eight years old and mama doesn’t let me cook yet.

“Would you like to buy some cookies? They’re really good!”


As ridiculous as cases 1-3 seem, they are actually too common among some church members. What is sad, is that we know better, yet we do it anyway.

There seems to be a mindset that rejects asking the pastor’s advice. Instead, in a quest for answers and solutions about things that have direct bearing on our soul’s future, we turn from the Godly advice of our man of God and ask our carnal friends. Even worse, we ask our sinner friends.

Oh, they were our best friends for a long time in the world. As a friend, they always gave good practical advice. So we feel safe asking them about spiritual things even though the friend is not in church.

Have good people forgotten that in the Bible, even Kings, well especially the God-fearing Kings, asked the Prophets for advice.

No Prophet ever went to battle with a sword that I recall offhand.  Yet King after King asked the man of God for his advice about going to war. He wanted the man of God to pray and find God’s will.

The King felt safer including God in his plans. We should too.

God has a problem when His people ask sinners and other carnal people for advice, especially if it includes spiritual things. After all, we are no longer our own, but His. We are bought with a price.

The Scriptures still means what they say.

Psa. 1:1 Blessed is the man that walketh not in the counsel of the ungodly, nor standeth in the way of sinners, nor sitteth in the seat of the scornful.

Psa. 1:2 But his delight is in the law of the LORD; and in his law doth he meditate day and night.

1 Corinthians 3:19 For the wisdom of this world is foolishness with God.

Written by Martyn Ballestero

April 29, 2011 at 12:52 am

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