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The Day I Obtained The Favor Of God

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The Day I Obtained The Favor Of God

Proverbs-18-22-ESV-webI have precious family members and the dearest of friends whose lives have been greatly pained by a marriage that went bad. I hurt for them and have cried for them and with them. None of us knows when we select a mate, what the future holds. Anyone can choose to go wrong.

Those of us who have loving and faithful spouses sometimes fail to appreciate how good we really have it!

So, I do not write today in an arrogant or boastful manner, nor do I mean to be hurtful to anyone, let alone disrespectful.

I simply write as one who is abundantly thankful to have found a girl who loves God with all of her heart, and who loves me more than words can tell!

So, Let Me Tell You How I Feel About My Marriage!

I feel the day I obtained the ‘favor’ of God was on a Saturday. The weather was perfect, and it was 2 o’clock in the afternoon August 14, 1965. This truly was, and has remained, the most wonderful day in my life! (Besides receiving the Holy Ghost.)


That Was The Day God Gave Me The Best Helpmate In The World!

She Just Happened To Be The Most Beautiful Girl In The World Too!


KJV Proverbs 18:22 Whoso findeth a wife findeth a good thing, and obtaineth favour of the LORD.


Vine’s Words: ‘Favour’

Ratson, raw-tsone’; from (ratsah); delight (especially as shown) :- (be) acceptable (-ance, -ed), delight, desire, favour, (good) pleasure.

Strong’s Greek & Hebrew Dictionary.

MSG Proverbs 18:22 Find a good spouse, you find a good life— and even more: the favor of GOD!

NLT Proverbs 18:22 The man who finds a wife finds a treasure, and he receives favor from the LORD.

TLB Proverbs 18:22 The man who finds a wife finds a good thing; she is a blessing to him from the Lord.


Not only Did I Obtain The Favor Of God (KJV) On August 14, 1965…

  • I also found a treasure! (The MSG)
  • I also found a good spouse! (NLT)
  • I also found a good life! (NLT)
  • I also received a blessing from the Lord! (TLB)

Matthew Henry Commentary and others are careful to point out the ‘good wife’ part of the passage. In a day when about half of marriages become dissolved, I am blessed to still enjoy the love of my life. Mine, is a ‘good wife.’


Matthew Henry Commentary Proverbs 18:22

1. A good wife is a great blessing to a man. He that finds a wife…that is, a good wife indeed, a jewel of great value, a rare jewel; he has found that which will not only contribute more than any thing to his comfort in this life, but will forward him in the way to heaven.

2. God is to be acknowledged in it with thankfulness; it is a token of his favour, and a happy pledge of further favours; it is a sign that God delights in a man to do him good and has mercy in store for him; for this, therefore, God must be sought unto.

Barnes’ Notes on Proverbs 18:22

The sense seems to require, “Whoso findeth a good wife,” as in some Chaldee manuscripts; but the proverb writer may be looking at marriage in its ideal aspect, and sees in every such union the hands of God joining together man and woman for their mutual good.


This Groom Is Singing The Weddings First Song, To God.  “I Want To Thank You.”



Like Me, This Groom Is Indeed Thankful For His Wife.



Happy Valentines Day To Marcia Starr Ballestero, My Life Long Love!

Your consecrated walk with God has brought to our home and to me the blessings and the favor of the Lord.

I will never be able to thank you enough for the great gift you are to me and our children, and our children’s children! You my Dear are the BEST!




Written by Martyn Ballestero

February 12, 2013 at 11:58 pm

One Of The Most Wonderful Gifts A Man Can Give His Children!

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One Of The Most Wonderful Gifts A Man Can Give His Children!

It’s not money.

It’s not expensive gifts either.

It’s not giving them all the latest toys and gadgets.

It’s not even giving them a large allowance.

I am not talking about giving your children something that only rich dads can afford. I’m talking about giving your children a gift that every father can give to his children, if only he would.

  • The most wonderful gift a man can give his children?
  • The answer is simple!
  • It’s hanging right there in front of you like the nose on your face!
  • You want to know?
  • You really want to know?

Love Their Mother!

That’s It! Love Their Mother!

Let your children hear you say something like, “I love you Baby,” to their mom. Then watch them smile approvingly. Let them see you kiss her and hug her. Let them see you brag on her. Kids aren’t dumb. They can tell if you really love their mom.

Let your sons see you be tender with their Mama, and they’ll grow up being tender to their wives too. Let your daughters see how a woman is to be cherished and loved. There not much more you can do to bring peace and comfort to your children, than for them to know they grew up in a love-filled home.

Your house may have cost 100’s of thousands of dollars. But if love was not shown or felt, then all you really have is an expensive daycare center for your children.

Both of my parents have now gone on to be with the Lord. But my father left me many wonderful memories and examples of him openly expressing his love to my mom.

In my mind I can still hear him singing love songs to her that seemed to blurt out of nowhere. Songs like:

  • Let Me Call You Sweetheart.
  • Sugar In The Morning, Sugar In The Evening, Sugar At Supper Time.

You get the idea. Mom would always smile and walk into his open arms. All of us children would smile and nervously laugh our approval. Sometimes we turned our heads. Sometimes we watched.

Many times I’ve walked into the living room, kitchen or dining room and seen them in a tender embrace. Sure I walked back out, but I saw it! I saw that my dad truly loved my mom. For a little kid or even a big kid, it doesn’t get much better than that.

Do you forget things like that? Absolutely not! You remember it so well, that you do the same things when you get married. Then, you let your children see you be loving and tender to their mother.

If you will do that, you have just increased the odds that your children will grow up knowing the secret of a happy home life.  And your grandchildren will grow up in a loving home as well. It’s the gift that keeps on giving.


(Now sir, go tell you wife right now how much you love her, and let your children hear you say it! Wrap your arms around her and give her a big smooch! That’s your homework for tonight. Class dismissed.)

Written by Martyn Ballestero

February 14, 2012 at 1:14 am