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How To Recognize If You Have an Anger Problem

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Almost all of my readers are God-fearing. Yet no matter how holy we may seem at church, the most damaging and disturbing problem in Christian homes today is Anger.

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How To Recognize If You Have an Anger Problem

Here are some of the most common signs of problem anger.

Road Rage: Yelling, swerving, using a vehicle as a weapon
Bullying: Treating other people like they are worthless
Throwing/ Breaking things: Taking out your frustration (or revenge?) on yours or other people’s property
Sarcasm and Teasing: Showing people (in a humorous way?) how stupid or ridiculous you think they are
Pouting: Feeling sorry for yourself, not cooperating just to get your way, creating guilt trips
Slamming doors/ Stomping feet
Criticizing others: To hell with being politically correct, power trip
Saying, “You’re right” but not meaning it: Seething, gets you out of a situation you are uncomfortable with/shuts them up fast
Condescension: You feel superior to everyone else and tell them about it in a nasty or sarcastic way
Interrupting: Your opinion counts the most; a form of bullying
Lying: Sneaky revenge, making up/spreading rumors, making promises you never intend to keep
Emotional abuse: Continually putting the same person down/ controlling/ threatening them repeatedly
Domestic abuse: Continual physical and/or mental cruelty toward those you live with
Yelling: Creating fear and/or submission through threatening volume
Body tension: Squeezing fists, clenching jaws, flexing muscles, turning red, stress
Withholding affection: You’ll show them who’s in control, lack of forgiveness, revenge
Starting arguments/fights just “for fun”: Getting a “high” or a “rush” at the expense of others
Moral superiority: Believing you “have a right” to be outraged and are justified in your destructive actions
Showing off: Being the “tough guy” to impress others
Grumpiness/moodiness: No awareness or concern about how you are coming across to others
Plotting revenge: Planning elaborate schemes to get back at your enemies
No forgiveness or forgetting: Hanging onto the hurts of the past
Masochism/Sadism: Addiction to hurting others and/or being hurt
Martyrdom: Enjoying making others feel guilty by playing the victim, way to get attention/sympathy
Low self-esteem: Hate yourself because you are stupid, worthless, ugly, lazy… a doormat
Stubbornness: Refusing to acknowledge being wrong or let others have their way
Glaring: You can’t hide your disdain for others, keeps people at a distance
Swearing/name-calling: Signal that the gloves have come off
Threatening others with harm: Physical, mental, financial, property, loss of freedoms/choices
Sighing/rolling eyes: Outer show of disrespect, contempt and/or frustration, listening is over
And many more

Here is what will happen-maybe it already has

If you exhibit a fair number of those common signs of problem anger, consider the consequences if you don’t change.

Anger can:

End your marriage/romance
Destroy your friendships/working relationships
Stunt your career and thus your financial growth
Land you in jail
Cause you heavy fines and legal fees
Give you higher insurance rates and costs to repair property
Isolate you from your family
Isolate your family from others
Push you into long-term depression
Cause anxiety and panic attacks
Destroy your self esteem
Cause high blood pressure, heart attacks, strokes, etc.
Increase your medical bills (Dr. visits, medicine, surgery)
Cause drug and alcohol abuse
And maybe worst of all, it will keep you from being happy and fulfilled every day… like you deserve to be.

Written by Martyn Ballestero

February 15, 2011 at 11:39 am

Posted in Anger, Uncategorized

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