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Some Signs You Are Leaving

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Some Signs You Are Leaving

There are some things about leaving that are a dead give-a-way, even to the untrained observer. Whether it’s in a marriage, a friendship or a fellowship, there are still signs.

I do not submit that all of these signs must be experienced before there is a departure. But anyone of these by itself should raise a flag of warning.

Many of these signs are the same for both men and women.


Some Signs She Is Leaving You.

  • She no longer confides in you.
  • She does her best to avoid you by staying out late.
  • She doesn’t seem glad to see you when you get home.
  • She doesn’t want to hold hands with you.
  •  She doesn’t want to be touched, kissed or hugged by you.
  • When you try to kiss her, she turns her head so that you kiss her on the cheek.
  • Her friends and family act different around you because she has told them that she plans to leave you.
  • She increases her weekly workouts.
  • Her hug is different.
  • She gets a new cell phone.
  • She leaves the room to take calls.
  • If she can’t leave the room, she doesn’t answer her phone because you are there.
  • She changes her dress style.
  • She changes her hairstyle.
  • She is more concerned about her appearance than you remember her being before.
  • Her work hours suddenly change.
  • She often mopes around the house, but before she goes out, she always perks up.
  • She suddenly wants a new body enhancement.
  • She accuses you of flirting with or wanting to be with other women.
  • She’s critical of everything you do.
  • She spends more hours on the computer than before.

Some Signs He Is Leaving You.

  • His computer now has a password when it didn’t before.
  • He now wipes out the history files on his computer.
  • He switches the computer screen when you walk into the room or tries to hide the screen from you.
  • He starts wearing cologne.
  • He changes is hairstyle.
  • You catch him in a number small lies.
  • He seems to have less money to do things.
  • He doesn’t want to go out and do things with you.
  • Your intuition is screaming at you that something is just not quite right.
  • He calls you paranoid, psycho, jealous, unreasonable and crazy.
  • He doesn’t instant message you as often.
  • He doesn’t call or send emails as often.
  • Or he starts sending more of them to cover up.
  • He is unavailable when he used to available.
  • You no longer receive gifts or presents, like in the old days.
  • His work hours have suddenly changed.
  • He now has more weekend or over night trips.
  • He works later at the office than he used to.
  • He has become more emotionally distant.
  • When you ask what’s going on with him he says it’s just his work.
  • He’s tired or he’s stressed or has a lot on his mind.
  • He often mopes around the house.
  • Before he goes out however, he perks up.
  • He says that he is misunderstood and unappreciated at home.
  • He looks for a reason to leave the house.
  • When he comes home, all he wants to do is sleep.
  • He buys a sports car. Maybe even a convertible, or the color red.
  • He accuses you of flirting with other men.
  • He criticizes the way you look or the way you do things.
  • He spends more hours on the computer than before.
  • He acts passive toward your affection.


Now, Let’s Take This Subject Into Another Dimension! Let’s Talk About You And Your Church.


Some Signs You’re Leaving Your Church.

  • You start finding fault
  • You undermine the leadership.
  • You continually find ways to express your dissatisfaction.
  • You express excitement over another church’s progress.
  • You resign your position.
  • You detach yourself from all of your commitments.
  • You are no longer faithful to church.
  • You don’t answer or return the pastor’s call.
  • You avoid the pastor.
  • Others notice how critical you are.
  • Your prayer life has changed.
  • Your worship is empty, it’s not the same.
  • You’re not faithful with your tithe.
  • You moved to the back of the congregation
  • You are more excited about worldly things than godly things.
  • You no longer dress the same.
  • You no longer look the same.
  • You stop caring what the pastor or the bible says.
  • You stopped saying amen.
  • You always hang around with backslidden or worldly people.
  • You justify your carnal activities
  • You become offended.
  • You can’t stop talking about what offended you.
  • You rationalize your disobedience.
  • You always have an excuse not to obey standards.
  • You become a lover of pleasure more than a lover of God.
  • You have more friends out of church than in church.
  • All you see are hypocrites in the church.
  • You stop giving in the offering
  • You stop giving of your time.
  • You stop serving.
  • You disconnect with your church friends.
  • You make decisions without including the man of God.
  • You made the choice to go against your pastor’s wishes.
  • You resent being accountable.
  • You disconnect with your pastor.

Are you showing signs of leaving?

I don’t know about you, but I’m not going anywhere. I’m not leaving!

Written by Martyn Ballestero

August 24, 2011 at 12:02 am

Posted in Backsliders

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  1. This post is so true. The reason behind all of this is ingratitude. Awesome post.

    Eric adcock

    August 24, 2011 at 12:12 am

  2. Excellent

    Kenneth bow

    August 24, 2011 at 12:34 am

  3. Sad but incredibly true! I’ve seen it over and over!

    Crystal Smith (Morris)

    August 24, 2011 at 3:37 pm

  4. The signs are usually very evident..very good Bro. Ballestero!


    August 25, 2011 at 3:48 pm

  5. Wow…That was good! Thank you for sharing your thought.


    August 26, 2011 at 3:19 pm

  6. you make decisions without including God

    Arturo Galvan

    March 14, 2013 at 10:02 pm

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