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Warning! Backsliding Is Not Fun!

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Warning! Backsliding Is Not Fun!

2 Peter 2:20 For if after they have escaped the pollutions of the world through the knowledge of the Lord and Saviour Jesus Christ, they are again entangled therein, and overcome, the latter end is worse with them than the beginning.


Backsliding Is Not Fun!

It’s the most painful choice a child of God can ever make. It’s hard! Backsliding is so dangerous that even if it was the last thing in the world to consider, it should never be an option.

Have you ever listened to new converts tell how happy they are to find this Pentecostal, Holy Ghost experience? They tell how empty they were before and how long they searched for happiness while in sin.

Even after listening to their testimonies, some foolish church members look at sinners and think maybe they are missing out on something. So they walk away from the greatest life in the world to enjoy sins pleasures. Pleasure that only last for a season.

Walking away from God will never be fun and games. Before you walk out on God, take another look at the warning signs.


1. Warning! Life Away From God Is Empty!

·      Saul spent 40 years learning to live without God.

·      Psalm 16:11  … in thy presence is fulness of joy; at thy right hand there are pleasures for evermore.

2. Warning! Your Life Will Not Turn Out As Planned.

·      Expect the worst!

·      It’s going to be unpleasant and hard!

·      Proverbs 13:15 …the way of transgressors is hard.

3. Warning! One Of The First Things That ‘Takes A Hit’ Is The Backsliders’ Marriage!

·      2 Samuel 11:2 And it came to pass in an eveningtide, that David arose from off his bed, and walked upon the roof of the king’s house: and from the roof he saw a woman washing herself; and the woman was very beautiful to look upon.

4. Warning!  Backsliders Are Hard To Reason With! They’re Hard Headed!

·      Proverbs 14:14 The backslider in heart shall be filled with his own ways:

·      Hosea 11:7 And my people are bent to backsliding from me:

5. Warning! Backsliders Will Get Caught In Their Own Sin Trap!

·      Proverbs 11:6 …but transgressors shall be taken in their own naughtiness.

6. Warning! The Way Of Transgressor Is Hard!

·      Divorce.

·      Babies born out-of-wedlock.

·      STD’s.

·      Drugs.

·      Addictions.

·      Jail time.

·      Financial losses.

·      Damaged reputation at home and among acquaintances.

·      Shame.

·      Embarrassment.

·      Dragging your family and friends down with you. If you ever recover, they might not.

·      Rationalizing and justifying your sins.

·      Alienated from God.

7. Warning! Backsliders Are Wasters.

·      The Prodigal Son

·      Luke 15:13 And not many days after the younger son gathered all together, and took his journey into a far country, and there wasted his substance with riotous living.

8. Warning! Some Old Testament Backsliders Didn’t Go Unpunished!

·      Cain

·      Esau

·      Lot’s Wife

·      Balaam

·      Aaron’s Sons

·      Eli’s Sons

·      Saul

9. Warning! God May Let You Go Unprotected While You Are Astray!

·      “Like a lamb in a large place.” A Shepherd doesn’t normally turn lamb loose in the wilderness to fend for itself.

·      God will allow you to be vulnerable to the wolves of sin when you go astray.

·      Hosea 4:16 For Israel slideth back as a backsliding heifer: now the Lord will feed them as a lamb in a large place.

·      The safest place to be is in His fold, not turned loose.

·      Psalm 4:8 I will both lay me down in peace, and sleep: for thou, LORD, only makest me dwell in safety.

10. Warning! Repentance Is A God Provided Privilege, Not Something You Can Do On A Whim!

·      No one gets to repent unless God grants him or her the privilege.

·      Romans 2:4 Or despisest thou the riches of his goodness and forbearance and longsuffering; not knowing that the goodness of God leadeth thee to repentance?

What Are The Chances Of A Backslider Wanting To Recover?

·      What are the chances of God letting them recover?

·      If God is willing to give a backslider another chance, they should not wait another moment.

·      God knows how to build a custom-made prayer room for backsliders.

If a backslider speaks critical of the pastor, the standards, or the saints – I see little hope.

If they admit they are not in church, but say if they ever got back in church, they would come back home… I see much more hope.

Now For The Good News! Every Backslider Can Be Healed!

·      Jeremiah 3:22 Return, ye backsliding children, and I will heal your backslidings.

·      1 John 1:9 If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.


Start The New Year Out Right. Get Your Walk With God Back On Track!

Written by Martyn Ballestero

December 31, 2013 at 2:11 pm

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“I’m Going To Run Away From Home!”

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“I’m Going To Run Away From Home!”

That’s what I told my mom. I looked at her face and she didn’t seem to be overly shaken by the news, which

Me, Daddy (Carl) & Mama (Content) Ballestero

Me, Daddy (Carl) & Mama (Content) Ballestero 1951

was a good thing for me. So I relaxed a bit. I had already handled the hardest part. I’d made my big announcement. She smiled understandingly at me, as she touched my shoulder.

“Would you like me to help you pack your suitcase?” She asked, still smiling pleasantly.

My seven-year old brain didn’t pick up on the fact that she wasn’t overly shaken or alarmed by my desire to go, and was asking to help me pack.

I quickly accepted her assistance, because I had never packed a suitcase before. Mama was good at packing and always making sure I had everything I needed for trips.

I watched as she put my clothes in the little suitcase. There were enough changes to maybe get me through a whole week, which was good.  She made sure my little Bible and toothbrush were also packed in the suitcase. There wasn’t any room left for my brown teddy bear. I felt a major twinge about that. I hadn’t planned on being that alone.

Mama and I took a final look around my room looking for anything else I might need to take with me. Finding nothing, she closed the lid and handed me the small suitcase.

I stood there a little uncertain about how my goodbye should be handled. Our family was a kissy and huggy kind of family.

Should I kiss and hug her good-bye, or should I just say, “Bye” and leave? I was unsure. Before I had time to figure it out, mama made the decision for me.

“Honey, put down your suitcase right there, because I would like to take you on a tour of the house before you go.”

I sat the suitcase down and followed behind mama as she walked down the hall toward her bedroom. She stopped in the doorway as I joined her, and we both looked into her modestly furnished room.

“Since you are never going to get to see this room again, I thought you might want to see for the last time, where your mommy and daddy sleep at night. This is where you came every night to say your bedtime prayers and get your good night kisses.

“It’s also where you came every morning to get hugs and kisses from mommy and daddy. But, since you’re leaving you’ve probably outgrown all that now, so you won’t have to come back here any more, but I wanted you to see it.”

I took a big gulp. I didn’t want to cry now. I hadn’t expected a tour of any kind. I’d just wanted to runaway.

She then took my hand and guided me to my sister’s bedroom.

“This is where Beverly and your little sister Carlene sleep, take a good look, you’ll never get to see your sisters again. (Beverly was almost six and Carlene was two.)

Mama then guided me by my bedroom and I looked at my teddy bear proudly sitting on my bed. I felt a big twinge.

The tour continued into the kitchen. Mama took great pains to explain to me that this was where she fixed my favorite meals. She also pointed out where I used to stand and talk to her, as she cooked.

“Here is where I made your pancakes, and cooked your favorite meals. In here is where I baked you cookies, pies, cakes and your favorite orange crusted biscuits!” She said as she pointed at the oven.

“You probably won’t be having any biscuits, cookies or pancakes where you’re going. You don’t know how to make those, and you don’t even have anything to make them with, if you did. So take a good look around.”

I hadn’t thought about never having biscuits, cookies or pancakes again. There were some things about running away I evidently hadn’t thought out completely. I got very serious.

We then walked into the dining room and stopped at the foot of the table where I always sat.

“Here is your place at the table, son. It’s going to look awful empty without you in it!”

She let that sink in a moment before we moved on. She pointed at the chairs.

“Here is where your daddy always sits, and here is where Beverly sits, and Carlene sits here, and I always sit over there. Take a good look, Honey, because you won’t ever get to see this table, or eat with us any more.”

I began to feel more alone than I had planned. Mama walked toward the living room, and I joined her looking at the couch and easy chairs.

“Over here is your daddy’s chair. That’s where he always sits during family devotions when he reads us a chapter from the Bible or reads from The Bible Story Book.

“Here is where I always sit, and there is where Beverly and Carlene sit, and over there is where you always sit.

Mama placed her arm around me as we stood side by side looking the room over.

“Well honey, I think that about concludes the tour of our home. I know you won’t ever get to see it again, because you won’t be coming back. But I want you to know and I want you to always remember how much you mommy and daddy love you.

Never forget how much your little sisters love you too. We are going to miss you every day. You will always be welcome here, because we will always love you.”

Then without a lengthy delay she continued her goodbyes.

“Oh, one more thing, I know I’ve shown you all through the house for the last time, but why don’t you kneel down with mama where we always pray for our family devotions and tell Jesus goodbye.

“You probably won’t be talking to Him anymore either.”

Tell Jesus goodbye? That thought shocked me childish mind. I hadn’t planned on telling Jesus goodbye. All I thought I wanted to do was runaway from home.

Without waiting for me to give any verbal response, mama knelt down at the old sofa and began to pray as only my mama could pray.

Mama was one of those precious Holy Ghost filled mama’s that prayed them heart-felt and spirit filled prayers. She never prayed very long without everyone around her knowing she had touched something pretty wonderful in the glory world.

She began to pray fervently, crying quickly and speaking in tongues. This was how mama always prayed, but today’s prayer and her crying took on new meaning for me as I knelt there beside her.

I listened to her crying, and I felt sure I had made my mama cry because I was running away. I listened to her pray and speak in tongues and knew she was surely talking to Jesus.

I had only been on my knees less than two or three minutes when I began to cry. I placed my arm around my mama and pulled myself close to her.

“Mama, I am so sorry for wanting to run away. I’m not going to go anywhere. I’m going to stay home with you.

Please forgive me, mama. I love you. I promise, I will never leave you. I won’t even get married, or nothing. I’m just going to stay with you!”

She slipped her arm around me, and hugged me tightly as she gave me a sweet kiss. And then she went back to finish her prayer time with the Lord.




By chance have you been thinking lately about running away from Home?

  • Have you been considering leaving the Father’s House?
  • Have you?

Well, before you go, please, please permit me to take you on a tour of the church you’ve been part of for so long.

I want you look with me again at the place where the plan of salvation was first preached to you. I am pointing at the pulpit.

Remember feeling like you had sinned so bad that God would never forgive you? Can you hear your pastor’s voice once again saying that there was no sin you had ever committed that Jesus wouldn’t forgive you of? Remember him trying to give you hope? He was trying to tell you that God loved you no matter what.

I’m sure you remember him saying that you needed to believe in God’s promise, repent of your sins, be baptized in Jesus name, and then receive the gift of the Holy Ghost speaking in other tongues. Just like they did on the day of Pentecost.

Please look right over here at the altar where you first knelt down and repented of your sins. Remember how you felt when you felt you repented that night?

Now, I want you to come with me over to the baptistery and look into the place where your sins got washed away in Jesus name! Remember how clean you felt and how wonderful that experience was?

Then, when you came up out of the water you lifted your hands and God filled you with the Holy Ghost. You spoke in a language you’d never spoken in before! Take a look at this place again and ask your self if the world has anything that matches that.

Oh, see that aisle right there? Remember all the times you shouted, and danced for joy down those aisles?

Remember the night you came up to the front and stood right there in a healing line and God healed you instantly of cancer? The world can’t offer you that.

Look over there at the third pew where you’ve sat all these years. Remember that Sunday night you stood and testified about God healing you? Remember that?

Come over here to this door, look in here. This is the prayer room you always went to before service each night. You fought a lot of battles and won a lot of victories kneeling right there.

Please walk with me down this hall. Here is the Pastor’s office. He sure loves you. Think of the many times he’s given you counsel, direction and encouragement.

I know you’ll never forget how he would pray with you, and for you, before you left the room. I hope you can remember what that was like, because you won’t have anything like that anymore.

Now, we need to come back out into the auditorium and look it over real slow. Let the faces of each one come to mind as you look at where they sat during service. They loved you. They rejoiced and shouted the night you got saved. Those dear people will pray for you daily, when they realize you are gone. They will never give up on you.

Never forget how much you are loved here. We are going to miss you everyday. Don’t ever forget that the Lord truly loves you and gave His all for you!

Well, that pretty much concludes our little tour.

Aw, before you go, why don’t you kneel with me right here where you always pray, and then you can tell Jesus good-bye too…





Some Signs You Are Leaving

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Some Signs You Are Leaving

There are some things about leaving that are a dead give-a-way, even to the untrained observer. Whether it’s in a marriage, a friendship or a fellowship, there are still signs.

I do not submit that all of these signs must be experienced before there is a departure. But anyone of these by itself should raise a flag of warning.

Many of these signs are the same for both men and women.


Some Signs She Is Leaving You.

  • She no longer confides in you.
  • She does her best to avoid you by staying out late.
  • She doesn’t seem glad to see you when you get home.
  • She doesn’t want to hold hands with you.
  •  She doesn’t want to be touched, kissed or hugged by you.
  • When you try to kiss her, she turns her head so that you kiss her on the cheek.
  • Her friends and family act different around you because she has told them that she plans to leave you.
  • She increases her weekly workouts.
  • Her hug is different.
  • She gets a new cell phone.
  • She leaves the room to take calls.
  • If she can’t leave the room, she doesn’t answer her phone because you are there.
  • She changes her dress style.
  • She changes her hairstyle.
  • She is more concerned about her appearance than you remember her being before.
  • Her work hours suddenly change.
  • She often mopes around the house, but before she goes out, she always perks up.
  • She suddenly wants a new body enhancement.
  • She accuses you of flirting with or wanting to be with other women.
  • She’s critical of everything you do.
  • She spends more hours on the computer than before.

Some Signs He Is Leaving You.

  • His computer now has a password when it didn’t before.
  • He now wipes out the history files on his computer.
  • He switches the computer screen when you walk into the room or tries to hide the screen from you.
  • He starts wearing cologne.
  • He changes is hairstyle.
  • You catch him in a number small lies.
  • He seems to have less money to do things.
  • He doesn’t want to go out and do things with you.
  • Your intuition is screaming at you that something is just not quite right.
  • He calls you paranoid, psycho, jealous, unreasonable and crazy.
  • He doesn’t instant message you as often.
  • He doesn’t call or send emails as often.
  • Or he starts sending more of them to cover up.
  • He is unavailable when he used to available.
  • You no longer receive gifts or presents, like in the old days.
  • His work hours have suddenly changed.
  • He now has more weekend or over night trips.
  • He works later at the office than he used to.
  • He has become more emotionally distant.
  • When you ask what’s going on with him he says it’s just his work.
  • He’s tired or he’s stressed or has a lot on his mind.
  • He often mopes around the house.
  • Before he goes out however, he perks up.
  • He says that he is misunderstood and unappreciated at home.
  • He looks for a reason to leave the house.
  • When he comes home, all he wants to do is sleep.
  • He buys a sports car. Maybe even a convertible, or the color red.
  • He accuses you of flirting with other men.
  • He criticizes the way you look or the way you do things.
  • He spends more hours on the computer than before.
  • He acts passive toward your affection.


Now, Let’s Take This Subject Into Another Dimension! Let’s Talk About You And Your Church.


Some Signs You’re Leaving Your Church.

  • You start finding fault
  • You undermine the leadership.
  • You continually find ways to express your dissatisfaction.
  • You express excitement over another church’s progress.
  • You resign your position.
  • You detach yourself from all of your commitments.
  • You are no longer faithful to church.
  • You don’t answer or return the pastor’s call.
  • You avoid the pastor.
  • Others notice how critical you are.
  • Your prayer life has changed.
  • Your worship is empty, it’s not the same.
  • You’re not faithful with your tithe.
  • You moved to the back of the congregation
  • You are more excited about worldly things than godly things.
  • You no longer dress the same.
  • You no longer look the same.
  • You stop caring what the pastor or the bible says.
  • You stopped saying amen.
  • You always hang around with backslidden or worldly people.
  • You justify your carnal activities
  • You become offended.
  • You can’t stop talking about what offended you.
  • You rationalize your disobedience.
  • You always have an excuse not to obey standards.
  • You become a lover of pleasure more than a lover of God.
  • You have more friends out of church than in church.
  • All you see are hypocrites in the church.
  • You stop giving in the offering
  • You stop giving of your time.
  • You stop serving.
  • You disconnect with your church friends.
  • You make decisions without including the man of God.
  • You made the choice to go against your pastor’s wishes.
  • You resent being accountable.
  • You disconnect with your pastor.

Are you showing signs of leaving?

I don’t know about you, but I’m not going anywhere. I’m not leaving!

Written by Martyn Ballestero

August 24, 2011 at 12:02 am

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