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Playing Out Of Bounds

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Playing Out Of Bounds

There have always been boundaries. Some of them God established and some of them common sense put in place. There are reasons for boundaries.

Boundaries in life are like guard rails. Every highway needs them at some point. Everyone’s flesh is weak. Quit arguing that yours isn’t. That in itself is a good reason for boundaries.

Boundaries are put in place to protect you and your good name. Your reputation is all that you have. Never let your good be evil spoken of.

A man does not have integrity because he made boundaries. He set those boundaries for himself because he has integrity.

Personal boundaries are what define your identity. Your family and friends know you well enough to know how you would respond to each situation. They count on you because they know you have set boundaries for yourself.

They’re like the property lines around a home. Yet, no one has had their property re-surveyed just because they have a 16-year-old in the house. Boundaries don’t change with the weather. They are like moral landmarks. They should never be changed or altered.


Every Nation Has Boundaries

  • Every nation defends its borders vigorously.
  • Ignoring the boundaries of any nation will lead to arrest and deportation.


Every Sport Has A Boundary

  • In sports, the referee blows a whistle and declares to everyone when you have gotten out-of-bounds.
  • Baseball calls it a foul ball.
  • Football and Basketball says a player was out-of-bounds.
  • If you want to stay in the game and not be penalized, stay within the boundaries.


God Set Natural Boundaries

The Sea

  • God set boundaries to the sea, saying thus far shall ye come and no more.
  • Prov 8:29 (NIV) When he gave the sea its boundary so the waters would not overstep his command, and when he marked out the foundations of the earth.


God Set Spiritual Boundaries

The Tree In The Garden

God set boundaries in the very beginning. He told Adam and Eve they could enjoy everything they could see and touch, except one thing; the tree of life. That tree was God’s. It was out-of-bounds to them.

The first thing Satan did was to question the boundaries. He asked, “Hath God said…?” That’s how Satan started out with man, and he’s never stopped.

He makes man ask himself, “How could it be wrong when it looks so good and feels so right?” The devil can’t wait for us to step out-of-bounds.


Boundaries In Relationships

Married – Married Boundaries

I asked that the men in the church I pastored to be careful. When they called the house of a brother and his wife answered. I asked them to say, “Praise the Lord” to her. That helps keep the conversation on a spiritual level.

Solomon instructed men to focus on their wife and not someone else’s. He said, “You’ve got your own cistern to refresh and nourish you. Don’t go to the neighbor’s house for a drink.”

Prov. 5:15 Drink waters out of thine own cistern, and running waters out of thine own well.

Job wouldn’t look at another woman. He set an important boundary for himself.

Job 31:1 I made a covenant with mine eyes; why then should I think upon a maid?



When I showed romantic interest in my wife Marcia, her father, Pastor William R. Starr took me aside for a man-to-man talk. He said, “When a couple dates, it’s the man who should know when to draw the line. It’s the man who should know what boundaries not to cross.”

No one wants their daughter to be courted by a young man who has no boundaries or understands some areas are off-limits.

Neither does a parent wish for their son to be alone with a girl who has no lines she is afraid to cross.

Babies are being born out-of-wedlock because either no one set a boundary or no one paid attention to it. Disregarding boundaries always lead to pain and regret.

Those Without Boundaries Do Not Fear God!


Singles – Marrieds        

Facebook has become a worldwide communications phenomenon. Pentecostals have taken full advantage of its availability. In most part, it’s for the good.

All its interaction is enjoyable and fun until someone crosses the line. The bad news is that everyone on Facebook then sees him or her as they show the world how void their life is of boundaries.

  • Why would a single girl keep commenting on a married man’s page?
  • Why would a single guy make constant comments on a married woman’s page?
  • They refuse to recognize boundaries in their life. They also refuse to set them.
  • It’s dangerous.
  • It is hazardous to a marriage.
  • It’s explosive.
  • It’s wrong.

Things can get out of line quickly. I recommend against playing even innocent games like Words With Friends between members of the opposite sex. It causes way too much familiarity. Be very afraid.

  • I also can find no occasion for chitchat texting between members of the opposite sex.
  • Why would a child of God have email addresses on their computer that they know are out of line and serve no spiritually productive purpose?
  • Surely there are no cell phone numbers of a single or married member of the opposite sex on your phone. Or of a single or married member of the opposite sex, if you are married.
  • Nothing good will come of it if you are guilty. You are playing with fire.



This is a day of no boundaries or limits in dress. Carnal people do not want standards.

Sadly, many beautiful young ‘Pentecostal’ ladies have been seen parading around camp meetings and conferences lately with their dresses several inches above their knees.

What happened at home? Where’s Mom? Where’s Dad? Where are the boundaries of dress? Why haven’t they let modesty set a boundary of dress for them?

With all of the above being said, I thank God for every person, young and old that has boundaries in their life. That let God’s Word order their steps. That realize Boundaries are not made to hurt anyone. They are put in place to keep everyone safe.

Boundaries… Don’t Leave Home Without Them!

Boundaries…Don’t Get On The Internet Without Them!


Written by Martyn Ballestero

August 16, 2011 at 12:14 am