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Did You Grow Up With An Angry Person?

If someone close to you, such as a family member or friend has or has had an anger problem, the following questions may help you determine if help is needed.

1. Do you constantly seek approval and affirmation?

2. Do you fail to recognize your accomplishments?

3. Do you fear criticism?

4. Do you overextend yourself?

5. Have you had problems with uncontrolled outbursts?

6. Do you have a need for perfection?

7. Are you uneasy when your life is going smoothly, continually anticipating problems?

8. Do you feel more alive in the midst of a crisis?

9. Do you feel responsible for others, as you did for the angry person in your life?

10. Do you care for others easily, yet find it difficult to care for yourself?

11. Do you isolate yourself from other people?

12. Do you respond with fear to authority figures and angry people?

13. Do you feel that individuals and society in general are taking advantage of you?

14. Do you have trouble with intimate relationships?

15. Do you confuse pity with love as you did with the problem person?

16. Do you attract and/or seek people who tend to be angry and/or abusive?

17. Do you cling to relationships because you are afraid of being alone?

18. Do you often mistrust your own feelings and the feelings expressed by others?

19. Do you find it difficult to identify and express your own emotions?

20. Do you think someone’s anger problem may have affected you?

Anger is a dysfunction in many families. Those who have lived through this as children may have problems that need to be resolved. If you have answered yes to any of the above questions, there is help for you.

Victims of anger have had to deal with extreme circumstances beyond their control for most of their life. Their environment became their private prison through no fault of their own.

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Biblical Insight

Prov. 27:4 Wrath is cruel, and anger is outrageous;

Eccl. 7:9 Be not hasty in thy spirit to be angry: for anger resteth in the bosom of fools.