Archive for the ‘Anger’ Category
Living Right With Wrong
Luke 17:1 Then said he unto the disciples, It is impossible but that offences will come:
- Wrong things happen to everyone, not just you.
- Sometimes, the wrong isn’t fixed overnight and we are forced to live with what hurts us the most.
- Our reaction to this wrong determines the outcome.
- It will decide how you feel now and how you will feel later.
- It also affects how God will feel about you in your tribulation.
- An old man-made adage reminds us, “Two wrongs don’t make a right.”
Rom. 12:17 Recompense to no man evil for evil. Provide things honest in the sight of all men.
Rom. 12:18 If it be possible, as much as lieth in you, live peaceably with all men.
David Had To Cope With Javelins Being Thrown At Him By The King.
Saul threw javelins at David but he just kept dodging them and never threw one back. He was doing his best to live right with wrong.
Are You Living With Angry People? Speak Kind Words.
Prov. 15:1 A soft answer turneth away wrath: but grievous words stir up anger.
Are You Mistreated? Turn The Other Cheek.
Matt. 5:39 But I say unto you, That ye resist not evil: but whosoever shall smite thee on thy right cheek, turn to him the other also.
Did You Lose A Lawsuit? Give Them More Than They Required.
Matt. 5:40 And if any man will sue thee at the law, and take away thy coat, let him have thy cloke also.
Are You Coping With Unreasonable Demands? Go The Extra Mile.
Matt. 5:41 And whosoever shall compel thee to go a mile, go with him twain.
Forgive Without Limitation!
Matt. 18:21 Then came Peter to him, and said, Lord, how oft shall my brother sin against me, and I forgive him? till seven times?
Matt. 18:22 Jesus saith unto him, I say not unto thee, Until seven times: but, Until seventy times seven.
Avoid The Company Of And Do Not Eat With These Types Of People:
- Fornicators
- Covetous People
- Critical People
- People Who Don’t Put God First
- People With Addictions
- Blackmailers
1Cor. 5:11 But now I have written unto you not to keep company, if any man that is called a brother be a fornicator, or covetous, or an idolater, or a railer, or a drunkard, or an extortioner; with such an one no not to eat.
Do Not Hurt Those That Have Hurt You.
1Thess. 5:15 See that none render evil for evil unto any man; but ever follow that which is good, both among yourselves, and to all men.
Love, Bless, And Pray For Your Enemies And Then Treat Them Nice.
Matt. 5:44 But I say unto you, Love your enemies, bless them that curse you, do good to them that hate you, and pray for them which despitefully use you, and persecute you;
Leave Revenge Up To God. Don’t Ever Try To Get Even.
Rom. 12:19 Dearly beloved, avenge not yourselves, but rather give place unto wrath: for it is written, Vengeance is mine; I will repay, saith the Lord.
Let The Lord Fight Your Battle.
Exo. 14:14 The LORD shall fight for you, and ye shall hold your peace.
Avoid These Destructive People:
2Tim. 3:1 This know also, that in the last days perilous times shall come.
2Tim. 3:2 For men shall be lovers of their own selves, covetous, boasters, proud, blasphemers, disobedient to parents, unthankful, unholy,
2Tim. 3:3 Without natural affection, trucebreakers, false accusers, incontinent, fierce, despisers of those that are good,
2Tim. 3:4 Traitors, heady, highminded, lovers of pleasures more than lovers of God;
2Tim. 3:5 Having a form of godliness, but denying the power thereof: from such turn away.
Even Though They Are Not Nice To You, Treat Others Like You Want Them To Treat You.
Matt. 7:12 Therefore all things whatsoever ye would that men should do to you, do ye even so to them: for this is the law and the prophets.
Don’t Take Your Brother To Court.
1Co 6:1 Dare any of you, having a matter against another, go to law before the unjust, and not before the saints?
1Co 6:2 Do ye not know that the saints shall judge the world? and if the world shall be judged by you, are ye unworthy to judge the smallest matters?
1Co 6:3 Know ye not that we shall judge angels? how much more things that pertain to this life?
1Co 6:4 If then ye have judgments of things pertaining to this life, set them to judge who are least esteemed in the church.
1Co 6:5 I speak to your shame. Is it so, that there is not a wise man among you? no, not one that shall be able to judge between his brethren?
1Co 6:6 But brother goeth to law with brother, and that before the unbelievers.
1Co 6:7 Now therefore there is utterly a fault among you, because ye go to law one with another. Why do ye not rather take wrong? why do ye not rather suffer yourselves to be defrauded?
1Co 6:8 Nay, ye do wrong, and defraud, and that your brethren.
Got A Problem Between You And Your Brother? Fix it God’s Way.
Mat 18:15 Moreover if thy brother shall trespass against thee, go and tell him his fault between thee and him alone: if he shall hear thee, thou hast gained thy brother.
Mat 18:16 But if he will not hear thee, then take with thee one or two more, that in the mouth of two or three witnesses every word may be established.
Mat 18:17 And if he shall neglect to hear them, tell it unto the church: but if he neglect to hear the church, let him be unto thee as an heathen man and a publican.
Be A Peacemaker And You Will Be Called A Child Of God.
Matt. 5:9 Blessed are the peacemakers: for they shall be called the children of God.
Put A Time Limit On Your Displeasure.
Eph. 4:26 …let not the sun go down upon your wrath:
Rom. 12:20 Therefore if thine enemy hunger, feed him; if he thirst, give him drink: for in so doing thou shalt heap coals of fire on his head.
Stupid Men With Smart Wives
Stupid Men With Smart Wives
How does that happen? It’s not all that uncommon today to see a stupid man with a smart wife. It makes everyone wonder about how they met and what was the attraction.
If she is so smart, why did she marry him? Did he con her? Did he keep his real self hidden from view until he married? Was she blinded by love?
Evidently, too many men have turned out to be, or act stupid after their marriage. If the wife had known how stupid he really was when they were courting, she quite possible would have never looked at him twice let alone married him.
I can even name a couple pretty stupid men in the Bible that were married to smart wives.
But, Let Me Just Focus On One, A Man Named Who Was Actually Named ‘Stupid’.
That’s Right, There Once Was A Man Named Stupid.
- That’s what his mama named him.
- He was called Nabal.
- Nabal = ‘Fool, Senseless’ (Hitchcock’s Dictionary of Bible Names)
- When it came to stupid, Nabal’s mama made sure he got to sit at the head of the class.
- He turned out to be the name they called him.
Nabal
He Was A Very Great Man, But He Was Also The Ultimate Senseless Fool.
1 Sam. 25:2 And there was a man in Maon, whose possessions were in Carmel; and the man was very great, and he had three thousand sheep, and a thousand goats: and he was shearing his sheep in Carmel.
- He was considered great because of what he had going on for himself.
- He had local respect and recognition.
- He had great means.
- He had a wonderful wife.
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Nabal Didn’t Fear God Nor Man
- Nabal was rich but he was also harsh and evil in his dealings. (1 Sam. 25:3).
- He didn’t care about helping others.
- He was focused on building his own kingdom, not helping God’s or anyone else’s.
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1 Sam. 25:3 Now the name of the man was Nabal; and the name of his wife Abigail: and she was a woman of good understanding, and of a beautiful countenance: but the man was churlish and evil in his doings; and he was of the house of Caleb.
- She was Smart.
- She was Beautiful.
- She was Unappreciated.
- She was Ignored.
- He was Evil.
- He was Wicked
- But he came from a great family… Caleb’s
- A goodly heritage and background evidently is not enough. He was still stupid in his actions.
- He was Churlish – (rude, mean-spirited, discourteous, uncivil, impolite).
- He didn’t deserve his wonderful wife.
- Abigail was the very image of beauty, wisdom and grace.
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No One Could Talk To Him
- He was Mr. Macho.
- He refused to listen to his wife or anyone else.
- Stupid men view their wives as inferior.
- Sometimes that attitude erupts in anger, irrational behavior and even violence.
- A man couldn’t speak to him. 1Sam 25:17
- No one could reason with him.
- He was always right, everyone else was wrong.
- Nabal never got delivered from his nature.
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Abigail
- Abigail is described as “intelligent” and she is praised in 1Sam 25:33 because of her discernment.
- But Nabal never benefited from his wife’s wisdom.
- They were never a team in his mind.
- She even stopped David and his men from attacking Nabal and killing him.
- She fell on the ground before David to apologize for her husband and beg for mercy.
- David listened to Abigail.
- Abigail described her husband in a very sad way when she made her plea.
- 1Sam 25:25 Let not my lord, I pray thee, regard this man of Belial, even Nabal: for as his name is, so is he; Nabal is his name, and folly is with him:
- She said: “Please disregard my worthless husband, Nabal, is his name and it means foolish. That’s what he is.
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- He refused to even feed the hungry men that were with David. All they had asked for a piece of bread.
- He ordered them off of his property.
- When Abigail heard what happened, she immediately went to David’s camp and apologized.
- Abigail’s actions are the only thing kept David from slaughtering Nabal and his men.
- When she got home she wanted to tell her husband what she had just done but he was too drunk to talk to anyone.
- She had to wait till he sobered up the next morning, before she could speak to him.
Nabal Heart Died Within Him
1 Sam. 25:37 But it came to pass in the morning, when the wine was gone out of Nabal, and his wife had told him these things, that his heart died within him, and he became as a stone.
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Some Kinds Of Stupid, No One Can Fix. That’s When God Stepped In.
1 Sam. 25:38 And it came to pass about ten days after, that the Lord smote Nabal, that he died.
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Can Anyone Fix Stupid?
I Don’t Know For Sure.
Here’s How I Would Try To Fix Stupid In My Life.
1. Rekindle The Fear Of The Lord In My Life.
Prov 9:10 The fear of the LORD is the beginning of wisdom: and the knowledge of the holy is understanding.
2. Repent – Turn Around.
3. Be a Man That Someone Can Talk To. Whether Pastor, Friend or Wife. Be Approachable.
4. Humble Myself Before God And Man… Including My Wife.
5. Admit I’m Wrong, Especially To My Wife And Family.
6. Willingly Take Godly Instruction. From The Bible, My Pastor, My Friends, And My Wife.
7. Never Let My Heart Die And Turn To Stone. (Because I Know What Happens In The Next Verse. That’s when God stepped in.)
So, if you ever see a stupid man with a smart and beautiful wife… pray for him, but pray more for her. She has a great big cross to bear in life.
Some Apostolics Are Happy Their Pastor Ignores A Few New Testament Scriptures.
Are Apostolics Happy Their Pastors Ignore Some New Testament Scriptures?
Apostolics by nature should be firm believers in “coming out from among them” and being separated from the world, and unto Christ. Yet, Christian approved sins may number more than we might first think. There is also a crowd that would ignore Biblical cautions and warnings because in their mind, that was only a guideline, not an actual sin.
It is our understanding that Holiness in both inward and outward. I find it safe to also say that what is on the inside will soon show on the outside.
We sometimes hear the subject of modesty talked about behind the pulpit. We also have many new choruses about God being a holy God. Yet, if we made a list of things we are comfortable not hearing about, it just might include a few of these New Testament Scriptures. There just too many to post here.
Heb 12:15 Looking diligently lest any man fail of the grace of God; lest any root of bitterness springing up trouble you, and thereby many be defiled;
- Bitterness (Holding a Grudge)
Eph 4:31 Let all bitterness, and wrath, and anger, and clamour, and evil speaking, be put away from you, with all malice:
- Wrath, Anger
- Clamour (A Big Outcry)
- Throwing Fits
- Evil Speaking (Criticism)
- Malice
Eph 4:32 And be ye kind one to another, tender-hearted, forgiving one another, even as God for Christ’s sake hath forgiven you.
- Be Tenderhearted
- Forgiving one another
1 Tim 5:13 And withal they learn to be idle, wandering about from house to house; and not only idle, but tattlers also and busybodies, speaking things which they ought not.
- Gossipers
- Busybodies
1 Tim 6:10 For the love of money is the root of all evil: which while some coveted after, they have erred from the faith, and pierced themselves through with many sorrows.
- Love of Money (Includes putting job before church?)
- Coveting To Be Rich
1 Tim 6:4 He is proud, knowing nothing, but doting about questions and strifes of words, whereof cometh envy, strife, railings, evil surmisings,
- Envy (Jealousy)
- Strife
- Railings (Words of Criticism)
- Evil Surmisings (Imagining the Worst about someone)
1 Tim 6:5 Perverse disputings of men of corrupt minds, and destitute of the truth, supposing that gain is godliness: from such withdraw thyself.
- Getting Caught Up In Twisted Doctrines And Beliefs
1 Tim 2:9 In like manner also, that women adorn themselves in modest apparel, with shamefacedness and sobriety; not with broided hair, or gold, or pearls, or costly array;
- Costly Array
- Modest Clothing
- Gold,
- Pearls
Heb 13:17 Obey them that have the rule over you, and submit yourselves: for they watch for your souls, as they that must give account, that they may do it with joy, and not with grief: for that is unprofitable for you.
- Obey (The Pastor)
- Submit Yourselves (One may obey without submitting, but it is impossible to submit without obeying.)
1 Tim 6:17 Charge them that are rich in this world, that they be not highminded, nor trust in uncertain riches, but in the living God, who giveth us richly all things to enjoy;
- High mindedness
2 Pet 2:10 But chiefly them that walk after the flesh in the lust of uncleanness, and despise government. Presumptuous are they, selfwilled, they are not afraid to speak evil of dignities.
2 Pet 2:11 Whereas angels, which are greater in power and might, bring not railing accusation against them before the Lord.
2 Pet 2:12 But these, as natural brute beasts, made to be taken and destroyed, speak evil of the things that they understand not; and shall utterly perish in their own corruption;
- Lust of Uncleanness
- Despise Governments (Don’t want to be told what to do.)
- Presumptous
- Self-willed
- Not Afraid to speak evil of dignitaries (Especially means your pastor)
- Railing Accusations
- Speaking evil of things they don’t understand.
Jude 1:16 These are murmurers, complainers, walking after their own lusts; and their mouth speaketh great swelling words, having men’s persons in admiration because of advantage.
- Murmurers
- Complainers
- Walking after their own lust (Doing whatever they want)
1 Pet 2:11 Dearly beloved, I beseech you as strangers and pilgrims, abstain from fleshly lusts, which war against the soul;
- Fleshly lusts
Matt 5:28 But I say unto you, That whosoever looketh on a woman to lust after her hath committed adultery with her already in his heart.
- Emotional Adultery
2 Tim 2:22 Flee also youthful lusts: but follow righteousness, faith, charity, peace, with them that call on the Lord out of a pure heart.
- Flee Youthful lusts (If it includes more than the sensual, could it also include sports?)
2 Tim 2:23 But foolish and unlearned questions avoid, knowing that they do gender strifes.
- Avoid Foolish and Stupid Questions (They just start fights)
1 Cor 11:14 Doth not even nature itself teach you, that, if a man have long hair, it is a shame unto him?
1 Cor 11:15 But if a woman have long hair, it is a glory to her: for her hair is given her for a covering.
- Men – Get A Haircut.
- Women – Don’t Ever Cut It
Matt 5:41 And whosoever shall compel thee to go a mile, go with him twain.
- Don’t Do The Minimum
Matt 5:43 Ye have heard that it hath been said, Thou shalt love thy neighbour, and hate thine enemy.
- Love The Neighbor (Neighboring Countries Too?)
Matt 5:44 But I say unto you, Love your enemies, bless them that curse you, do good to them that hate you, and pray for them which despitefully use you, and persecute you;
- Love Your Enemies
- Bless Them That Curse You
- Do Good Things To Them That Hate You
- Pray For Them That Are Unkind To You
1 Jn 2:15 Love not the world, neither the things that are in the world. If any man love the world, the love of the Father is not in him.
1 Jn 2:16 For all that is in the world, the lust of the flesh, and the lust of the eyes, and the pride of life, is not of the Father, but is of the world.
- Love Not The World
- Love Not The Things In The World
- Lust of the Flesh
- Lust of the Eyes
- Pride Of Life
Jas 4:10 Humble yourselves in the sight of the Lord, and he shall lift you up.
- Humility
Jas 4:11 Speak not evil one of another, brethren. He that speaketh evil of his brother, and judgeth his brother, speaketh evil of the law, and judgeth the law: but if thou judge the law, thou art not a doer of the law, but a judge.
- Speaking Evil And Unkind Things Of One Another
1 Tim 5:19 Against an elder receive not an accusation, but before two or three witnesses.
- At Least Two (or Three) Witnesses Needed Before Accusing An Elder.
1 Tim 5:20 Them that sin rebuke before all, that others also may fear.
- Saints That Sin Should Be Rebuked In Church?
Jas 4:15 For that ye ought to say, If the Lord will, we shall live, and do this, or that.
- Not Saying, “If The Lord Wills)
Jas 4:16 But now ye rejoice in your boastings: all such rejoicing is evil.
- Boasting
Jas 4:17 Therefore to him that knoweth to do good, and doeth it not, to him it is sin.
- Ignoring The Word
Jas 1:26 If any man among you seem to be religious, and bridleth not his tongue, but deceiveth his own heart, this man’s religion is vain.
- Not Watching What You Say
Jas 1:27 Pure religion and undefiled before God and the Father is this, To visit the fatherless and widows in their affliction, and to keep himself unspotted from the world.
- Visit The Sick Orphans And Widows
- Keep Yourself Unspotted (Unaffected by) The World
Rom 1:24 Wherefore God also gave them up to uncleanness through the lusts of their own hearts, to dishonour their own bodies between themselves:
Rom 1:25 Who changed the truth of God into a lie, and worshipped and served the creature more than the Creator, who is blessed for ever. Amen.
Rom 1:26 For this cause God gave them up unto vile affections: for even their women did change the natural use into that which is against nature:
Rom 1:27 And likewise also the men, leaving the natural use of the woman, burned in their lust one toward another; men with men working that which is unseemly, and receiving in themselves that recompense of their error which was meet.
Rom 1:28 And even as they did not like to retain God in their knowledge, God gave them over to a reprobate mind, to do those things which are not convenient;
Rom 1:29 Being filled with all unrighteousness, fornication, wickedness, covetousness, maliciousness; full of envy, murder, debate, deceit, malignity; whisperers,
Rom 1:30 Backbiters, haters of God, despiteful, proud, boasters, inventors of evil things, disobedient to parents,
Rom 1:31 Without understanding, covenantbreakers, without natural affection, implacable, unmerciful:
Rom 1:32 Who knowing the judgment of God, that they which commit such things are worthy of death, not only do the same, but have pleasure in them that do them.
- Surely This Doesn’t Need To Be Explained Further
2 Tim 3:16 All scripture is given by inspiration of God, and is profitable for doctrine, for reproof, for correction, for instruction in righteousness:
2 Tim 3:17 That the man of God may be perfect, thoroughly furnished unto all good works.
- There’s A Reason For Every Scripture In The Bible.
- Don’t Ignore
- Don’t Pick And Choose.
Acts 20:26 Wherefore I take you to record this day, that I am pure from the blood of all men.
Acts 20:27 For I have not shunned to declare unto you all the counsel of God.
- Peter Wasn’t Afraid To Say What Needed To Be Said
- May God Help Us All
A Private Company
A Private Company
There exists a Private Company that specializes in secrecy, but is daily impacting lives and changing the world.
- This Company specializes in intense Membership training.
- Almost everyone in the Company eventually goes into some area of management.
- No unions are wanted or needed.
- Each local Company is autonomous. There is no Corporate Office.
At first, it is mandatory for every member of the Company to report in daily.
After tenure has been established, Members are encouraged to report in daily, but it is not mandatory.
From the first day in the Company, each Member’s position becomes secure.
Members might be ignored, laughed at, hated, loved, despised, or tolerated by other Team Members, but their position is locked in.
- Each Member is encouraged to recruit a new Member into the Company.
- Random cash bonuses may become available to all.
- Each Team Member has the authority and ability to solve any Company problem of their choosing.
- However, most Team Members create more problems than they ever solve.
Each One In The Company Chooses At What Level They Wish To Participate.
- Yet, if they remain uninvolved, or uncommunicative, they still remain a part of the team.
- Each Member has knowledge of a secret key to build up the Company or destroy it.
The Company is not allowed to go ‘public’ on Wall Street.
The Company never advertises on a billboard, radio, television or newspaper… Yet the growth rate is phenomenal.
Each Member, among their other duties, acts as an official Press Agent for the Company.
The public willingly believes whatever you, as the Company Press Agent, divulge.
- Removal of a Member that has been recruited may take a court order, and is always traumatic.
- Other Team Members may or may not help you on any given project. It’s their call.
- Bankruptcy can’t even put the Company out of business.
- There are never any dues
Occasionally there will be unannounced Staff Meetings, and it is important that all Members be there.
Seldom are these Meetings ever occasions for awards or commendations. They are always dreaded.
Any Member may call for a Staff Meeting.
Everyone knows who the Boss is.
- When the Boss dies, another takes that position without a vote or appointment. No election is ever held.
- Hurt feelings are a serious and common work hazard.
- Bitterness and Anger are the most common enemies of the Company’s existence and almost always brings disaster.
- Every Member has been known to support others on the Team in good times and bad.
Each Company Is Different. Some Are Involved In Activities Like:
- Sports,
- Politics,
- Fitness,
- Religion,
- Food Preparation and Fine Dinning,
- Money Management,
- Travel,
- Recreation,
- Education,
- Decorating,
- Boating,
- Big Game Hunting,
- Child Care
Some welcome visitors, and provide a tour that almost always includes a free luncheon.
Others welcome the public by invitation only.
Security is highly prized in the Company.
Each local Company determines what benefits are desired, and when they should be dispersed.
- The Company can survive and even thrive in capitalism or communism.
- It matters not if it is in a country ruled by a King, a President, or a Dictator.
- It matters not if it is located in an urban setting, rural or even in the ghetto.
- It survives in spite of zoning laws, no parking signs, economic down turns, or holidays.
All Members retain their position for life.
There is no ‘30 and out’ requirement.
There is constant gossip at the water cooler.
Invasive Background Checks are not uncommon.
- Private calls are not frowned on, but rather encouraged.
- While dress codes differ, there are no uniforms or name tags.
- The Company will thrive without advertisement. Its name will never be seen on a billboard, in a commercial or a newspaper.
- The Company’s only means of public awareness is by word of mouth.
What Is This Company?
Where Can I Find One In My Area?
You’re Too Late.
You’ve Found It Already.
You Have Been A Working Member Of A Private Company For Years Already!
Thanks Right!
- I’m talking about your Family.
- Your Family!
- Your Family is what you make it!
- What are you making out of your Family?
How To Recognize If You Have an Anger Problem
Almost all of my readers are God-fearing. Yet no matter how holy we may seem at church, the most damaging and disturbing problem in Christian homes today is Anger.
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How To Recognize If You Have an Anger Problem
Here are some of the most common signs of problem anger.
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Road Rage: Yelling, swerving, using a vehicle as a weapon |
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Bullying: Treating other people like they are worthless |
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Throwing/ Breaking things: Taking out your frustration (or revenge?) on yours or other people’s property |
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Sarcasm and Teasing: Showing people (in a humorous way?) how stupid or ridiculous you think they are |
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Pouting: Feeling sorry for yourself, not cooperating just to get your way, creating guilt trips |
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Slamming doors/ Stomping feet |
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Criticizing others: To hell with being politically correct, power trip |
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Saying, “You’re right” but not meaning it: Seething, gets you out of a situation you are uncomfortable with/shuts them up fast |
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Condescension: You feel superior to everyone else and tell them about it in a nasty or sarcastic way |
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Interrupting: Your opinion counts the most; a form of bullying |
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Lying: Sneaky revenge, making up/spreading rumors, making promises you never intend to keep |
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Emotional abuse: Continually putting the same person down/ controlling/ threatening them repeatedly |
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Domestic abuse: Continual physical and/or mental cruelty toward those you live with |
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Yelling: Creating fear and/or submission through threatening volume |
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Body tension: Squeezing fists, clenching jaws, flexing muscles, turning red, stress |
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Withholding affection: You’ll show them who’s in control, lack of forgiveness, revenge |
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Starting arguments/fights just “for fun”: Getting a “high” or a “rush” at the expense of others |
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Moral superiority: Believing you “have a right” to be outraged and are justified in your destructive actions |
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Showing off: Being the “tough guy” to impress others |
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Grumpiness/moodiness: No awareness or concern about how you are coming across to others |
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Plotting revenge: Planning elaborate schemes to get back at your enemies |
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No forgiveness or forgetting: Hanging onto the hurts of the past |
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Masochism/Sadism: Addiction to hurting others and/or being hurt |
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Martyrdom: Enjoying making others feel guilty by playing the victim, way to get attention/sympathy |
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Low self-esteem: Hate yourself because you are stupid, worthless, ugly, lazy… a doormat |
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Stubbornness: Refusing to acknowledge being wrong or let others have their way |
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Glaring: You can’t hide your disdain for others, keeps people at a distance |
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Swearing/name-calling: Signal that the gloves have come off |
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Threatening others with harm: Physical, mental, financial, property, loss of freedoms/choices |
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Sighing/rolling eyes: Outer show of disrespect, contempt and/or frustration, listening is over |
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And many more |
Here is what will happen-maybe it already has
If you exhibit a fair number of those common signs of problem anger, consider the consequences if you don’t change.
Anger can:
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End your marriage/romance |
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Destroy your friendships/working relationships |
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Stunt your career and thus your financial growth |
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Land you in jail |
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Cause you heavy fines and legal fees |
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Give you higher insurance rates and costs to repair property |
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Isolate you from your family |
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Isolate your family from others |
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Push you into long-term depression |
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Cause anxiety and panic attacks |
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Destroy your self esteem |
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Cause high blood pressure, heart attacks, strokes, etc. |
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Increase your medical bills (Dr. visits, medicine, surgery) |
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Cause drug and alcohol abuse |
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And maybe worst of all, it will keep you from being happy and fulfilled every day… like you deserve to be. |
Did You Grow Up With An Angry Person?
Did You Grow Up With An Angry Person?
If someone close to you, such as a family member or friend has or has had an anger problem, the following questions may help you determine if help is needed.
1. Do you constantly seek approval and affirmation?
2. Do you fail to recognize your accomplishments?
3. Do you fear criticism?
4. Do you overextend yourself?
5. Have you had problems with uncontrolled outbursts?
6. Do you have a need for perfection?
7. Are you uneasy when your life is going smoothly, continually anticipating problems?
8. Do you feel more alive in the midst of a crisis?
9. Do you feel responsible for others, as you did for the angry person in your life?
10. Do you care for others easily, yet find it difficult to care for yourself?
11. Do you isolate yourself from other people?
12. Do you respond with fear to authority figures and angry people?
13. Do you feel that individuals and society in general are taking advantage of you?
14. Do you have trouble with intimate relationships?
15. Do you confuse pity with love as you did with the problem person?
16. Do you attract and/or seek people who tend to be angry and/or abusive?
17. Do you cling to relationships because you are afraid of being alone?
18. Do you often mistrust your own feelings and the feelings expressed by others?
19. Do you find it difficult to identify and express your own emotions?
20. Do you think someone’s anger problem may have affected you?
Anger is a dysfunction in many families. Those who have lived through this as children may have problems that need to be resolved. If you have answered yes to any of the above questions, there is help for you.
Victims of anger have had to deal with extreme circumstances beyond their control for most of their life. Their environment became their private prison through no fault of their own.
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Biblical Insight
Prov. 27:4 Wrath is cruel, and anger is outrageous;
Eccl. 7:9 Be not hasty in thy spirit to be angry: for anger resteth in the bosom of fools.
Are You Troubled By Someone’s Anger?
Are You Troubled By Someone’s Anger?
Too many Christians are affected by the excessive anger of someone who is close to them. Sadly, this problem has often found it’s way into the best of families.
The following questions are designed to help you decide whether or not help is needed.
1. Do you worry about how often someone gets angry?
2. Do you have to spend money to replace broken things because of someone else’s anger?
3. Do you tell ‘lies’ to minimize or cover up for the actions of someone else’s anger?
4. Do you feel that if the angry person loved you, he or she would stop being angry to please you?
5. Do you blame the angry person’s behavior on his or her childhood?
6. Are plans frequently upset or meals ruined because of their anger?
7. Do you make threats, such as, “I can’t stand your anger any more, I’m going to leave you”?
8. Do you feel the need to check their attitude before speaking?
9. Are you afraid to upset someone for fear it will set him or her off?
10. Have you been ashamed or embarrassed by an angry person’s behavior?
11. Are holidays and family gatherings spoiled because of someone’s anger?
12. Have you considered calling the police for help or in fear, because of anger?
13. Are any of your personal possessions missing or destroyed because of anger?
14. Are children in your house also victims of this anger?
15. Have you not invited guests to your home or refused social invitations out of fear or anxiety?
16. Do you feel like a failure when you think of the unsuccessful lengths you have gone to in order to lessen or control their anger?
17. Do you ever threaten to hurt yourself to ‘scare’ the angry person?
18. Do you feel upset, confused or depressed most of the time?
19. Have you feared for your personal safety.
20. Do you feel there is no one who understands your problems, or no one you can talk to?
If you have answered yes to three or more of these questions, immediate help is needed.
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Biblical Point
NKJV Pro 19:19 A man of great wrath will suffer punishment; For if you rescue him, you will have to do it again.
It doesn’t matter how many times you bail out a person out an angry person, you are going to have to bail them out again and again. As long as they cannot control their anger they are going to get into trouble. All the loved ones will suffer. Help is needed.