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Why Pastor Robert Cavaness Sr. Wouldn’t Come To The Phone.

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Why Pastor Robert Cavaness Sr. Wouldn’t Come To The Phone.

 

 

If Robert C. Cavaness was anything, he was a Christian Gentleman. He always seemed to be thoughtful of others and would often go out of his way to help someone. Even if it meant emptying his own pockets. He was a man who never ignored, or slighted anyone.

Friendship was something he never took lightly. If he ever called you his friend, you knew you were blessed for life because of his friendship. When he was needed, he came, never even expecting to be reimbursed. He was big-hearted and generous to a fault.

My father, Carl J. Ballestero, was blessed to be a close friend of dear Brother Cavaness. They stayed in each other’s homes, preached in each other’s churches, preached conferences together, traveled across the country together, and even went on missions’ trips together. They regularly talked on the phone, as well.

Brother Cavaness was a praying man whose personal devotions with God became a subject that caused great awe and respect among all those who knew him. I personally have walked into his living room at five am and seen him sitting in a chair with his open Bible in one hand and a cup of coffee in the other. That’s how he started his day.

If you were ever honored to be in service with him in Shelbyville, Indiana and you got there early enough for pre-service prayer, then you’ve heard him pray. Once you’ve heard him pray, you never forgot it either. The man could talk to God.

Then came that fateful night. The night when Pastor Robert Cavaness Sr. wouldn’t come to the phone. It was a Sunday night and about twenty minutes before service time. The phone rang in his office. Bro. Cavaness had asked one of the men to sit at his desk and take calls while he went into the sanctuary to pray before church.

 

“This is the Apostolic Tabernacle.” The baritone voice said as it greeted the caller.

“Praise the Lord, Is Bro. Cavaness there?” the caller inquired.

 

“Yes, he is, but he can’t be bothered right now.”

“Well, I need to talk to him and I need to talk to him now, if at all possible. It’s very urgent!”

 

“I’m very sorry, but it is not possible to disturb him right now.”

“This is Brother Ballestero, tell him it’s me, and that I need to speak to him now. He will come to the phone if he knows it’s me calling. Tell him I said it’s important.”

 

“I am very sorry Brother Ballestero, but he will not be able to speak to you now.

“Why not?” he asked.

 

He will not speak to anyone right now.”

“Why not?” he asked again.

 

“Pastor told me to tell all the callers that he cannot come to the phone right now, but for me to write down the names and the numbers of each caller. He said the reason he couldn’t talk to anyone on the phone now is that he is currently talking to the most important person in the whole world. He’s praying.  And, he gave me specific orders to never disturb him while he was praying. He refuses to be interrupted when he’s talking to God. He said he would return all his calls after service.”

 

“I see.” Said the stunned and deflated voice of the caller.

“Thank you for calling, Brother Ballestero. Bro. Cavaness will be happy to return your call as soon as he can. I’ll tell him you called.”

 

 

 

Written by Martyn Ballestero

October 19, 2017 at 8:22 am

God’s Rule Book Concerning Respect And Disrespect

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God’s Rule Book Concerning Respect And Disrespect

 

If You Are Ashamed Of Me… I’ll Be Ashamed Of You

Mark 8:38 Whosoever therefore shall be ashamed of me and of my words in this adulterous and sinful generation; of him also shall the Son of man be ashamed, when he cometh in the glory of his Father with the holy angels.

I Will Bless Them That Bless, And Curse Them That Curse.

Genesis 12:3 And I will bless them that bless thee, and curse him that curseth thee:

 

When The Fear Of God Is Lost, Disrespect Will Always Show Itself.

God’s Reaction To Their Loss Of Fear?

2 Kings 17:25 And so it was at the beginning of their dwelling there, that they feared not the LORD: therefore the LORD sent lions among them, which slew some of them.

 

Forsaking The Truth Is Disrespecting God

Deuteronomy 32:17 They sacrificed unto devils, not to God; to gods whom they knew not, to new gods that came newly up, whom your fathers feared not.

God’s Reaction To Their Disrespect?

Deuteronomy 32:19 And when the LORD saw it, he abhorred them, because of the provoking of his sons, and of his daughters.

Deuteronomy 32:20 And he said, I will hide my face from them, I will see what their end shall be: for they are a very froward generation, children in whom is no faith.

 

What Happens When God Disrespect You?

Genesis 4:5 But unto Cain and to his offering he had not respect. And Cain was very wroth, and his countenance fell.

  • God had no respect for Cain.
  • Cain was cursed and banished.

 

This Is An Age Of Disrespect!

Disrespect has always existed but is especially evident everywhere in this generation! It has become readily accepted in the free world, and America in particular. As an old man who has lived through several generations, I am amazed at the exhibits of disrespect today.

 

Warning: Do Not Disrespect God!

God’s Reaction To Disrespect?

Romans 1:28 And even as they did not like to retain God in their knowledge, God gave them over to a reprobate mind, to do those things which are not convenient;

 Romans 1:29 Being filled with all unrighteousness, fornication, wickedness, covetousness, maliciousness; full of envy, murder, debate, deceit, malignity; whisperers,

Romans 1:30 Backbiters, haters of God, despiteful, proud, boasters, inventors of evil things, disobedient to parents,

Romans 1:31 Without understanding, covenantbreakers, without natural affection, implacable, unmerciful:

Romans 1:32 Who knowing the judgment of God, that they which commit such things are worthy of death, not only do the same, but have pleasure in them that do them.

  • When God is disrespected, he responds in such a way that man cannot recover.

 

The Lord Observes Every Slight And Every Exhibit Of Disrespect.

 Luke 7:44 And he turned to the woman, and said unto Simon, Seest thou this woman? I entered into thine house, thou gavest me no water for my feet: but she hath washed my feet with tears, and wiped them with the hairs of her head.

Luke 7:45 Thou gavest me no kiss: but this woman since the time I came in hath not ceased to kiss my feet.

Luke 7:46 My head with oil thou didst not anoint: but this woman hath anointed my feet with ointment.

 

Refusing God’s Call Is Showing Disrespect.

Luke 13:34 O Jerusalem, Jerusalem, which killest the prophets, and stonest them that are sent unto thee; how often would I have gathered thy children together, as a hen doth gather her brood under her wings, and ye would not!

 

Warning: Do Not Disrespect God’s House!

Moses – Was Required To Take Off His Shoes!

Exodus 3:5 And he said, Draw not nigh hither: put off thy shoes from off thy feet, for the place whereon thou standest is holy ground.

 

Hophni And Phinehas Disrespected God’s House.

1 Samuel 2:12 Now the sons of Eli were sons of Belial; they knew not the LORD.

1 Samuel 2:22 Now Eli was very old, and heard all that his sons did unto all Israel; and how they lay with the women that assembled at the door of the tabernacle of the congregation.

1 Samuel 2:23 And he said unto them, Why do ye such things? for I hear of your evil dealings by all this people.

1 Samuel 2:24 Nay, my sons; for it is no good report that I hear: ye make the LORD’S people to transgress.

  • They laid with the women in the Tabernacle.
  • They desecrated the sacrifices.
  • They shamed the office of the priesthood.
  • They knew not the Lord.
  • They caused the people to sin
  • They removed the Ark from the Holy Place and took it to battle, where it was captured.
  • God had them killed.

 

God’s Reaction To Their Disrespect?

1 Samuel 2:34 And this shall be a sign unto thee, that shall come upon thy two sons, on Hophni and Phinehas; in one day they shall die both of them.

1 Samuel 4:11 And the ark of God was taken; and the two sons of Eli, Hophni and Phinehas, were slain.

 

Jesus Openly Confronted Disrespect In The Temple!

Mark 11:15 And they come to Jerusalem: and Jesus went into the temple, and began to cast out them that sold and bought in the temple, and overthrew the tables of the moneychangers, and the seats of them that sold doves;

Mark 11:16 And would not suffer that any man should carry any vessel through the temple.

Mark 11:17 And he taught, saying unto them, Is it not written, My house shall be called of all nations the house of prayer? but ye have made it a den of thieves.

 

Uzzah Wasn’t Disrespectful In His Own Eyes, But In God’s Eyes, He Was.

2 Samuel 6:6 And when they came to Nachon’s threshingfloor, Uzzah put forth his hand to the ark of God, and took hold of it; for the oxen shook it.

 

God’s Reaction To His Disrespect?

2 Samuel 6:7 And the anger of the LORD was kindled against Uzzah; and God smote him there for his error; and there he died by the ark of God.

 

 Warning: Do Not Disrespect God’s Man!

 

The Children Of Bethel Disrespected Elisha The Prophet

2 Kings 2:23 And he went up from thence unto Bethel: and as he was going up by the way, there came forth little children out of the city, and mocked him, and said unto him, Go up, thou bald head; go up, thou bald head.

 

God’s Reaction To Their Disrespect?

2 Kings 2:24 And he turned back, and looked on them, and cursed them in the name of the LORD. And there came forth two she bears out of the wood, and tare forty and two children of them.

 

Trying To Pastor Your Self Is Disrespectful.

Jude 1:12 These are spots in your feasts of charity, when they feast with you, feeding themselves without fear:

 

Warning: Do Not Disrespect God’s Word – Disobedience Is Disrespect.

God’s Reaction To Disrespect of His Word?

Numbers 15:30 But the soul that doeth ought presumptuously, whether he be born in the land, or a stranger, the same reproacheth the LORD; and that soul shall be cut off from among his people.

Numbers 15:31 Because he hath despised the word of the LORD, and hath broken his commandment, that soul shall utterly be cut off; his iniquity shall be upon him.

Hebrews 10:28 He that despised Moses’ law died without mercy under two or three witnesses:

Deuteronomy 4:2 Ye shall not add unto the word which I command you, neither shall ye diminish ought from it, that ye may keep the commandments of the LORD your God which I command you.

 

Adding To Or Taking Away From God’s Word Is Disrespect.

Revelation 22:18 For I testify unto every man that heareth the words of the prophecy of this book, If any man shall add unto these things, God shall add unto him the plagues that are written in this book:

Revelation 22:19 And if any man shall take away from the words of the book of this prophecy, God shall take away his part out of the book of life, and out of the holy city, and from the things which are written in this book.

 

Today…

  • There Is disrespect for morality.
  • Holiness is mocked.
  • Modesty is scorned.
  • Blatant disdain of Scripture is everywhere.

 

Warning: Do Not Disrespect God’s Mercy

Hebrews 10:29 Of how much sorer punishment, suppose ye, shall he be thought worthy, who hath trodden under foot the Son of God, and hath counted the blood of the covenant, wherewith he was sanctified, an unholy thing, and hath done despite unto the Spirit of grace?

 

God’s Reaction To The Disrespect Of His Mercy?

Genesis 6:3 And the LORD said, My spirit shall not always strive with man…

 

Warning: Do Not Disrespect God’s Spirit

Ephesians 4:30 And grieve not the holy Spirit of God, whereby ye are sealed unto the day of redemption.

 

Warning: Do Not Disrespect Your Parents.

God’s Reaction To Disrespecting Your Parents?

Matthew 15:4 For God commanded, saying, Honour thy father and mother: and, He that curseth father or mother, let him die the death.

Ephesians 6:2 Honour thy father and mother; (which is the first commandment with promise;)

 

Warning: Don’t Disrespect Your Wife.

God’s Reaction To Your Disrespect?

1 Peter 3:7 Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge, giving honour unto the wife, as unto the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life; that your prayers be not hindered.

  • Adultery is disrespect
  • Emotional unfaithfulness is disrespect
  • Connecting with, texting, emailing and calling other women is being unfaithful to your wife.
  • Treat her with much tenderness.
  • Thoughtfulness.
  • Tell her that you love her.
  • Never call her an unkind name.
  • Never run her down to others.
  • Never criticize her publicly or in front of others.
  • Never let your children hear you say anything but sweet things about their mother.
  • She went to death’s door to give you a family, and then you disrespect her? (You don’t deserve a wife!)

 

Warning: Do Not Disrespect Your Brother.

1 John 4:20 If a man say, I love God, and hateth his brother, he is a liar: for he that loveth not his brother whom he hath seen, how can he love God whom he hath not seen?

Romans 12:10 Be kindly affectioned one to another with brotherly love; in honour preferring one another;

 

Warning: Do Not Disrespect Your Neighbor.

Matthews 22:39 And the second is like unto it, Thou shalt love thy neighbour as thyself.

Deuteronomy 19:14 Thou shalt not remove thy neighbour’s landmark, which they of old time have set in thine inheritance, which thou shalt inherit in the land that the LORD thy God giveth thee to possess it.

1 Peter 2:17 Honour all men. Love the brotherhood.

 

Warning: Don’t Disrespect Your Boss

1 Timothy 6:1 Let as many servants as are under the yoke count their own masters worthy of all honour, that the name of God and his doctrine be not blasphemed.

  • Do not Disrespect Your Boss.

 

Warning: Don’t Disrespect Yourself

1 Thessalonians 4:4 That every one of you should know how to possess his vessel in sanctification and honour;

  • Don’t cheapen yourself with drugs, alcohol or tattoos.
  • Don’t cheapen yourself by being immoral.

 Leviticus 19:28 Ye shall not make any cuttings in your flesh for the dead, nor print any marks upon you: I am the LORD.

1 Corinthians 11:14 Doth not even nature itself teach you, that, if a man have long hair, it is a shame unto him?

Deuteronomy 22:5 The woman shall not wear that which pertaineth unto a man, neither shall a man put on a woman’s garment: for all that do so are abomination unto the LORD thy God.

1 Corinthians 11:5 But every woman that prayeth or prophesieth with her head uncovered dishonoureth her head: for that is even all one as if she were shaven.

1 Corinthians 11:6 For if the woman be not covered, let her also be shorn: but if it be a shame for a woman to be shorn or shaven, let her be covered.

1 Corinthians 11:15 But if a woman have long hair, it is a glory to her: for her hair is given her for a covering.

 

The Disrespect Of Leadership

God’s Reaction To Disrespecting Your Spiritual Leader?

2 Peter 2:10 But chiefly them that walk after the flesh in the lust of uncleanness, and despise government. Presumptuous are they, selfwilled, they are not afraid to speak evil of dignities.

2 Peter 2:11 Whereas angels, which are greater in power and might, bring not railing accusation against them before the Lord.

2 Peter 2:12 But these, as natural brute beasts, made to be taken and destroyed, speak evil of the things that they understand not; and shall utterly perish in their own corruption;

  • This generation is not afraid to speak harsh things about their Pastors!
  • The Bible prophesied this would happen concerning all leaders.
  • Some Kings and Dictators have recently imprisoned all those who make negative public comments on social media.
  • Even in America, the world saw the highest levels of disrespect exhibited by both major parties and on almost every level of government during and since the recent election.
  • Blocking The Presidential Cavalcade.
  • Throwing rocks at the President’s vehicle.
  • Thousands have even invited the assassination of the President on social media.
  • They are simply referred to as ‘protestors’ by the politically correct crowd.
  • They respect no opinion but their own.
  • The media openly leads the way to disrespect.
  • College professors advocate that we question everything and everyone.
  • Sadly, this culture seems not to be shocked by disrespect.

 

God’s Reaction To Disrespecting Leadership?

1 Peter 2:17 Honour the king.

 1 Timothy 2:1 I exhort therefore, that, first of all, supplications, prayers, intercessions, and giving of thanks, be made for all men;

1 Timothy 2:2 For kings, and for all that are in authority; that we may lead a quiet and peaceable life in all godliness and honesty.

1 Timothy 2:3 For this is good and acceptable in the sight of God our Saviour;

 

Nations Disrespecting Other Nations

Luke 21:10 Then said he unto them, Nation shall rise against nation, and kingdom against kingdom:

  • Threatening
  • Posturing
  • Intimidating
  • Name calling

 

The Disrespecting Of America At Home And Abroad.

The Older Generation Remembers The Hippies Disrespecting The Flag

  • Burning the American flag.
  • Stomping on it.
  • Cutting it up and wearing it for clothing.
  • While unappreciated soldiers died for their freedom in Viet Nam.
  • We used to see bumper stickers that said, “America, Love it or Leave it”

Today some highly visible sports figures deem it necessary to disrespect America in general and the National Anthem in particular.

America’s Greatest Enemy Seems To Be Within Our Borders.

 

Warning: Do Not Disrespect Your Enemy

Psalms 116:11 I said in my haste, All men are liars.

John 4:9 Then saith the woman of Samaria unto him, How is it that thou, being a Jew, askest drink of me, which am a woman of Samaria? for the Jews have no dealings with the Samaritans.

Titus 1:12 One of themselves, even a prophet of their own, said, The Cretians are alway liars, evil beasts, slow bellies.

Moses was highly schooled by the greatest minds of Egyptians. They feared not Jehovah nor His ways. Yet his teachers never succeeded in making him despise his Godly heritage.

Hebrews 11:26 Esteeming the reproach of Christ greater riches than the treasures in Egypt: for he had respect unto the recompence of the reward.

Disrespect is included in the signs of the last days. It is resident in the spirit of the last generation. Please pray that the coming of the Lord will find us all walking humbling before Him. May the words of our mouth and the mediation of our heart be acceptable in His sight.

  • Disrespectful people are never blessed by God.
  • Disrespectful people are not forgiven.
  • Disrespectful people’s prayers are not heard.
  • Disrespectful people are haughty and arrogant.
  • Disrespectful people don’t feel they need God’s help.

 

 Are You Disrespectful?

2 Chronicles 7:14 If my people, which are called by my name, shall humble themselves, and pray, and seek my face, and turn from their wicked ways; then will I hear from heaven, and will forgive their sin, and will heal their land.

 

Written by Martyn Ballestero

April 8, 2017 at 8:50 am

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Things You Won’t Fix

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Things You Won’t Fix

Isn’t it amazing how we can allow ourselves to live with situations that are not normal? Not only do we live with it, but also we ignore it, saying that when we get the time we’ll fix it.

Things Like:

  • A leaky faucet.
  • The cracked storm window.
  • Some partially finished remodeling job.
  • Your leaky roof.

 

  • The broken back doorstep.
  • Missing basement handrail.
  • A button missing from a sport coat.
  • That rotten tooth that needs pulled?

Never Fixed

We Mention It, Say We Need To Do It, But Let It Go Another Year.

  • The things you don’t fix will fix you.
  • It WILL put you in a fix.
  • Is the cost of not fixing it cheaper than fixing it? No! Never.
  • Aren’t there some things your wife has asked you to fix six months ago and you still haven’t gotten around to it?
  • If you don’t fix your car, you’ll put it up on blocks and it will sit as an eyesore for years out in the front yard.  Everyone will know you by that landmark.

 

  • The leaky faucet will raise your water bill.
  • The leaky roof will cost you thousands to fix because you let it go.
  • The tooth will give you more pain than you could imagine.
  • When a house is not fixed we say they just let the place go.
  • There are just some things you won’t fix.

 

King Solomon Marveled At Men Who Procrastinated During The Harvest.

  • Prov. 24:30 I went by the field of the slothful, and by the vineyard of the man void of understanding;
  • Prov. 24:31 And, lo, it was all grown over with thorns, and nettles had covered the face thereof, and the stone wall thereof was broken down.
  • Prov. 24:32 Then I saw, and considered it well: I looked upon it, and received instruction.

 

Common Phrases Are Used In Regards To One’s Personal Appearance.

  • “She fixed herself up.”
  • “He let himself go”

 

When We Do Not Do Something Immediately, We Call It Procrastination.

The closest word to procrastination in the Bible is, sluggard. We are repulsed by even the thought of being called a sluggard.

The sluggard is a procrastinator. His motto is, “Never do today what you can put off until tomorrow.” Sluggards have developed the ability to put off starting a task as well as not completing those they have already begun.

The sluggard rationalizes everything and his mind works much faster than his body. He will always quickly find an excuse not to.

  • I don’t have the time
  • I don’t have the tools
  • I don’t have the know-how
  • I don’t have the desire
  • I don’t feel in the mood
  • I got a lot of irons in the fire
  • I have a headache

There Are Those Who Never Fix Themselves Spiritually. They Just Let Themselves Go.

 

Are There Some Things In Our Hearts That We Won’t Fix?

  • A bad attitude?
  • A bad habit?
  • No prayer life?
  • No worship?

 

  • Not honoring God with our tithes?
  • Broken family relationships?
  • Bridges we need to build?
  • Restoring an offended brother?
  • Not saying I’m sorry, forgive me?

 

Be Reconciled To Your Brother Before To Expect God To Hear You.

  • Matt 5:23 Therefore if thou bring thy gift to the altar, and there rememberest that thy brother hath ought against thee;
  • Matt 5:24 Leave there thy gift before the altar, and go thy way; first be reconciled to thy brother, and then come and offer thy gift.

 

Need To Fix Your Back Tithe Problem?

  • It will cost you heavily if you do not fix the problem areas of your soul.
  • It will cost you 20% additional if you do not stay current with your tithing. The longer you wait the more it will cost you.
  • Lev 27:31 And if a man will at all redeem ought of his tithes, he shall add thereto the fifth part thereof.

 

When You Don’t Fix It, Then It’s Becomes Sin!

  • Jas 4:17 Therefore to him that knoweth to do good, and doeth it not, to him it is sin.
  • We like to use the word procrastinate, but that word is not in the Bible. A sluggard is what the Scripture calls us.
  • In the natural, your procrastination qualifies you as a sluggard.
  • In the spiritual, the Bible just calls you a sinner.
  • Spiritually, our pride keeps us from fixing some things.

 

There Are Things You Won’t Fix, Why?

  • You know you need the Holy Ghost speaking in tongues.
  • You know you need to be baptized in Jesus name to be saved.
  • You know you need to be faithful to church.
  • You know you need to worship.
  • You know you need to pay tithes.
  • You know you need to live a holy and separated life.
  • You know you need to be reconciled to your brother.

 

Jesus Called The Scribes And Pharisees, Hypocrites.

  • Mat 23:23 Woe unto you, scribes and Pharisees, hypocrites! for ye pay tithe of mint and anise and cummin, and have omitted the weightier matters of the law, judgment, mercy, and faith: these ought ye to have done, and not to leave the other undone.
  • They only fixed the part men could see.
  • Hypocrites won’t fix what really needs to be fixed.

 

There Are Men In The Bible Who Never Fixed What Was Wrong In Their Life.

 

Agrippa Almost Got Right With God.

  • Acts 26:28 Then Agrippa said unto Paul, Almost thou persuadest me to be a Christian.
  • He never fixed it.

 

Felix Knew What He Needed To Do, But The Timing Wasn’t Right.

  • Acts 24:25 And as he reasoned of righteousness, temperance, and judgment to come, Felix trembled, and answered, Go thy way for this time; when I have a convenient season, I will call for thee.
  • He never fixed it.

 

The Rich Young Ruler Thought It Cost Too Much To Follow Jesus.

  • Matt. 19:22 But when the young man heard that saying, he went away sorrowful: for he had great possessions.
  • He never fixed it.

 

When It Comes To Fixing, Some Things God Has Put A Time Limit On.

  • Eph 4:26 Be ye angry, and sin not: let not the sun go down upon your wrath:
  • God’s curfew for anger is sunset. Fix your disagreements before the sun goes down. That’s God’s requirement.
  • Fix it.

 

The Four Lepers Fixed It

  • 2Ki 7:3 And there were four leprous men at the entering in of the gate: and they said one to another, Why sit we here until we die?
  • They fixed it!

 

Jacob Had A Problem But He Fixed It When He Wrestled With The Angel

  • Gen 32:24 And Jacob was left alone; and there wrestled a man with him until the breaking of the day.
  • He fixed it!

 

The Prodigal Son

  • Luke 15:18 I will arise and go to my father, and will say unto him, Father, I have sinned against heaven, and before thee,
  • Luke 15:19 And am no more worthy to be called thy son: make me as one of thy hired servants.
  • He fixed it!

 

The History of Obligatory Archery Practice!

The references to horses, riders, kingdoms and battles in “For want of a nail” indicate the English origins of the rhyme. One of the English Kings did not leave anything to chance! In 1363, to ensure the continued safety of the realm, King Edward III commanded the obligatory practice of archery on Sundays and holidays! The earliest known written version of the rhyme is in John Gower’s “Confesio Amantis” dated approximately 1390.

 

“For Want Of A Nail”

For want of a nail the shoe was lost.

For want of a shoe the horse was lost.

For want of a horse the rider was lost.

For want of a rider the battle was lost.

For want of a battle the kingdom was lost.

And all for the want of a horseshoe nail.

 

Are there are things God has asked you to fix and you still haven’t gotten around to it?

Why would you expect God to fix things for you that you’re not willing to fix for yourself?

Have you got a loose or lost nail in your life?

Please fix it.

Yes, Fix It Now!

 

Stupid Men With Smart Wives

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Stupid Men With Smart Wives

How does that happen? It’s not all that uncommon today to see a stupid man with a smart wife. It makes everyone wonder about how they met and what was the attraction.

If she is so smart, why did she marry him? Did he con her? Did he keep his real self hidden from view until he married? Was she blinded by love?

Evidently, too many men have turned out to be, or act stupid after their marriage. If the wife had known how stupid he really was when they were courting, she quite possible would have never looked at him twice let alone married him.

I can even name a couple pretty stupid men in the Bible that were married to smart wives.

 

But, Let Me Just Focus On One, A Man Named Who Was Actually Named ‘Stupid’.

That’s Right, There Once Was A Man Named Stupid.

  • That’s what his mama named him.
  • He was called Nabal.
  • Nabal = ‘Fool, Senseless’ (Hitchcock’s Dictionary of Bible Names)
  • When it came to stupid, Nabal’s mama made sure he got to sit at the head of the class.
  • He turned out to be the name they called him.

 


 

Nabal

He Was A Very Great Man, But He Was Also The Ultimate Senseless Fool.

1 Sam. 25:2 And there was a man in Maon, whose possessions were in Carmel; and the man was very great, and he had three thousand sheep, and a thousand goats: and he was shearing his sheep in Carmel.

  • He was considered great because of what he had going on for himself.
  • He had local respect and recognition.
  • He had great means.
  • He had a wonderful wife.

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Nabal Didn’t Fear God Nor Man

  • Nabal was rich but he was also harsh and evil in his dealings. (1 Sam. 25:3).
  • He didn’t care about helping others.
  • He was focused on building his own kingdom, not helping God’s or anyone else’s.

 

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1 Sam. 25:3 Now the name of the man was Nabal; and the name of his wife Abigail: and she was a woman of good understanding, and of a beautiful countenance: but the man was churlish and evil in his doings; and he was of the house of Caleb.

  • She was Smart.
  • She was Beautiful.
  • She was Unappreciated.
  • She was Ignored.
  • He was Evil.
  • He was Wicked
  • But he came from a great family… Caleb’s
  • A goodly heritage and background evidently is not enough. He was still stupid in his actions.
  • He was Churlish – (rude, mean-spirited, discourteous, uncivil, impolite).
  • He didn’t deserve his wonderful wife.
  • Abigail was the very image of beauty, wisdom and grace.

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No One Could Talk To Him

  • He was Mr. Macho.
  • He refused to listen to his wife or anyone else.
  • Stupid men view their wives as inferior.
  • Sometimes that attitude erupts in anger, irrational behavior and even violence.
  • A man couldn’t speak to him. 1Sam 25:17
  • No one could reason with him.
  • He was always right, everyone else was wrong.
  • Nabal never got delivered from his nature.

 

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Abigail

  • Abigail is described as “intelligent” and she is praised in 1Sam 25:33 because of her discernment.
  • But Nabal never benefited from his wife’s wisdom.
  • They were never a team in his mind.
  • She even stopped David and his men from attacking Nabal and killing him.
  • She fell on the ground before David to apologize for her husband and beg for mercy.
  • David listened to Abigail.
  • Abigail described her husband in a very sad way when she made her plea.
  • 1Sam 25:25 Let not my lord, I pray thee, regard this man of Belial, even Nabal: for as his name is, so is he; Nabal is his name, and folly is with him:
  • She said: “Please disregard my worthless husband, Nabal, is his name and it means foolish. That’s what he is.

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600-David-Abigail25Abigail Saved Nabal’s Life

  • He refused to even feed the hungry men that were with David. All they had asked for a piece of bread.
  • He ordered them off of his property.
  • When Abigail heard what happened, she immediately went to David’s camp and apologized.
  • Abigail’s actions are the only thing kept David from slaughtering Nabal and his men.
  • When she got home she wanted to tell her husband what she had just done but he was too drunk to talk to anyone.
  • She had to wait till he sobered up the next morning, before she could speak to him.

 

Nabal Heart Died Within Him

1 Sam. 25:37 But it came to pass in the morning, when the wine was gone out of Nabal, and his wife had told him these things, that his heart died within him, and he became as a stone.

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Some Kinds Of Stupid, No One Can Fix. That’s When God Stepped In.

1 Sam. 25:38 And it came to pass about ten days after, that the Lord smote Nabal, that he died.

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Can Anyone Fix Stupid?

I Don’t Know For Sure.

Here’s How I Would Try To Fix Stupid In My Life.

1. Rekindle The Fear Of The Lord In My Life.

Prov 9:10 The fear of the LORD is the beginning of wisdom: and the knowledge of the holy is understanding.

2. Repent – Turn Around.

3. Be a Man That Someone Can Talk To. Whether Pastor, Friend or Wife. Be Approachable.

4. Humble Myself Before God And Man… Including My Wife.

5. Admit I’m Wrong, Especially To My Wife And Family.

6. Willingly Take Godly Instruction. From The Bible, My Pastor, My Friends, And My Wife.

7. Never Let My Heart Die And Turn To Stone. (Because I Know What Happens In The Next Verse. That’s when God stepped in.)

 


 

So, if you ever see a stupid man with a smart and beautiful wife… pray for him, but pray more for her. She has a great big cross to bear in life.

Written by Martyn Ballestero

April 12, 2014 at 10:21 am

The Curse Of The Permissive Parent And Pastor

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The Curse Of The Permissive Parent And Pastor

My critics might say that this blog post is written with a bad spirit, I pray not, but it if so, may the Lord forgive me. Please allow me to give an altar call of sorts.

Parents

My beloved wife and I may be senior citizens now, but we have learned a few things about raising a family throughout the years. We have been richly blessed of the Lord with five of the most wonderful children parents could ever pray to have. But, it’s the raising of them that requires the help of the Lord and wisdom of a Solomon.

I cannot take credit for the wisdom part, (My wife is blessed with good common sense.) but we both have been greatly helped by our dear parents, by the Lord and by His Word.

Parents have to learn when to say Yes, and when to say No. Sometimes, both words are hard to say.

A child that never hears the word No while growing up, will most likely have a difficult time saying No to themselves as an adult.

We all enjoy the cute personality displays in our children. We love their antics and brag on their accomplishments. It’s all part of being a parent.

But, no one likes to see a tantrum when a child doesn’t get his or her way. But, it does happen. It happens at home, in Wal-Mart, in the car and even at church.

Many times a parent must say No to their darling child for it’s own good. Those pleading eyes and their sweet-talking may melt your heart. Remember however, your sweet innocent little child has learned long ago how to work the family system and manipulate your emotions. Oh yes.

When we see a well-mannered teen or young adult, we know they didn’t become that way just by themselves. There was someone in their life that helped make and mold them into that young adult we admire.

What Type Of Children Do Permissive Parents Produce?

·      Spoiled brats?

·      Children that must always have their own way?

·      Children that feel free to talk back to their parents?

·      Undisciplined and disrespectful that will bring their parents shame?

Who in their right mind would want to be married to someone that carried that same spoiled brat attitude into their adult life?

Children who have been blessed with loving parents, who were not afraid to say No, receive the most compliments in life. Just saying.

Under the disguise of being merciful and loving, some have permitted the development of little monsters in their own home.

 

The Curse Of The Permissive Parent Is That Your Child Will Bring You Shame.

 

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Additional Reading:

Seven Signs Your Kid Is A Brat

http://www.care.com/child-care-permissive-parenting-7-signs-your-kid-is-a-brat-p1017-q6594347.html

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Pastors

Pastors also have to learn when to say Yes, and when to say No. Sometimes, both words are hard to say.

Remember the story of Eli, a High Priest in the Bible? He was a nice guy, a real nice guy… just weak. He was so weak he couldn’t say, No.

He was a High Priest over Israel. Yet, he would not judge the sins of his own sons. The boys were a disgrace to their father. They brought shame and reproach upon him, upon Israel and they angered God so much, that He killed them.

Eli’s sons, Hophni and Phinehas were priests, yet they showed great contempt for God’s Law and they openly sinned. No one dared cross them or complain. They made a great mockery in their execution of holy things in the Tabernacle.

KJV 1 Sam. 2:12 Now the sons of Eli were sons of Belial; they knew not the Lord.

ESV 1 Sam. 2:12 Now the sons of Eli were worthless men. They did not know the Lord.

Eli’s sons were guilty of great crimes, which brought destruction upon their father’s house. Their actions caused the Ark of God to be lost to the great enemy of Israel.

shmuel-a04b-eliPhinehas died in battle with the Philistines (1 Sam. 4: 4, 11); and his wife, on hearing of his death, gave birth to a son, whom she named Ichabod, saying, “The glory is departed from Israel” and then she died.

Upon hearing the news of the loss of the Ark in battle and the death of his sons, Eli fell from where he was sitting and broke his neck and died. Scripture says that Eli’s heart trembled for the Ark. That is very commendable. But why didn’t that same love for the Ark make him correct the sons that served the Ark with him?

A pastor that condones or excuses the sinfulness of his children will live long enough to regret the day he gave in to their pleas for permission to do wrong. As a pastor, you of all people should know that you really do not love your child when you:

  • Supply them with money for their habits.
  • Excuse their inability to keep a job even though they are married with children.
  • Refuse to believe they could ever be guilty of wrongdoing.
  • Excuse their prescription drug abuse.
  • Always take their side against their spouse.
  • Allow them on the platform while they are under the influence of a controlled substance to which they are addicted.
  • Ignoring their drinking problem.
  • Use them in leadership.
  • Overlook their moral problems.
  • Keep bailing them out of jail and sticking them behind the pulpit again.
  • Allow their tempers and threats to cause good people to leave church.
  • Have a different standard for the saint’s kids than for your own.

(Saints may not say anything to you, but they are not stupid. They see what is going on, but they keep on, as best they can, hoping you will correct the situation somehow.)

But If You Don’t…

You sir, have just become another Eli. God is not pleased with the shame you have allowed to be brought upon His house. It’s just a matter of time before the word Ichabod will be written again. Only this time, it will be written very close to you.

If you desire the glory of God to continue to bless and anoint the church you pastor. Take the oversight, reprove and rebuke with all long-suffering. Love what God loves, hate what God hates.

Under the disguise of being merciful and loving, some pastors have permitted the development of monsters.

The Curse Of The Permissive Pastor Is That Your Child Will Bring Shame Upon You And The House Of God.

I Promise You, The Glory Will Depart. Revival Will Not Stay.

Written by Martyn Ballestero

April 6, 2013 at 12:18 pm

Shouldn’t Porn Viewers Be Called Adulterers Too?

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Shouldn’t Porn Viewers Be Called Adulterers Too?

God chose to create a helpmate that would be most desirable in the eyes of Adam. He succeeded and did a perfect job in the creation of Eve.

The plan was for man and woman to live together in a bond that was secure from sensual influences outside of the sanctity of their marriage. They each were given power over the others emotions and senses.

1Cor 7:4 The wife hath not power of her own body, but the husband: and likewise also the husband hath not power of his own body, but the wife.

When we step out of the safety of our house to go to work, for example, we no doubt will soon see someone of the opposite gender. For most men, it is a non-event that is completely ignored. No untoward stimuli is involved in their public observations.

For others, the looking is what triggers a chain of events that makes them vulnerable for a horrible downfall. They ogle and allow their mind and their thoughts to join in creating an ungodly fantasy.

When Jesus told His hearers, that when a man looked longingly upon a woman other than his wife, he was guilty of adultery in his heart.

Matt 5:28 But I say unto you, That whosoever looketh on a woman to lust after her hath committed adultery with her already in his heart.

Unlike our generation, no one listening to the sermon Jesus preached that day ever heard of the word porn or pornography. They computerclipartunderstood clearly though that improperly looking upon a woman was not pleasing to God.

Hotel staff members tell me their highest room porn rentals of the year (on the room’s TV) is during men’s conferences and youth conferences. God help!

Today, with all the promotion of books, magazines and the Internet, experiencing adultery in the heart, is at an all time high… even in the privacy of your own home.

If what Jesus said is applied to the current porn industry, then it is possible to never see the ‘actress’ live and in real life, and yet watch her online and be guilty of adultery in your heart.

Why is it that those who are known to view pornography are not called adulterers? Isn’t that what they are?

If porn viewers are guilty of adultery, then they need to repent for that. Sir, please carefully guard yourself, your home, your relationship with your wife, and your eternal future. It quickly becomes an addiction that may possibly lead to, or accompany your moral failure.

Repentance (confessing) is the first step. Is the spirit of adultery in your heart? It doesn’t have to stay there. Forsaking is the next step you must take. Then, thirdly, I recommend a good old-fashioned praying through! Accountability will help keep you and your wife safe.

  • The Repentance,
  • Forsaking and a
  • Renewing of the Holy Ghost is imperative!
  • Make yourself accountable.

The Psalmist prayed, ‘Create in me a clean heart.’ That should be the prayer of every man who desires to make heaven his home, and his home a heaven.

Now, get up from your computer and go spend some time showing attention to that beautiful bride you pledged your ‘I Do’ to!!

You Won’t Be Sorry!

Written by Martyn Ballestero

March 8, 2013 at 12:00 am

Some Men Don’t Dress Up For Church Anymore!

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Some men don’t dress up for church anymore. Churches where all the men wear suits, are rare. Does this reflect our ‘comfortable’ thinking about God? Is it that we bought into the concept that God ONLY looks on the inside? I don’t know. I sure don’t have an answer. If you don’t dress up for God, then when would be an appropriate time to dress up?

Young men wear a suit or a tuxedo to the prom.

Men wear a suit when they marry and pledge their love to their bride.

Men wear a suit to the job interview.

Men wear a suit to drive a limo.

Men dress up to serve your food.

Men wear a suit when they are on TV, to make a good impression.

Men wear a suit when they stand before a Judge.

Men wear a suit when they sit on the witness stand, to impress the jury.

Men wear a suit when they are in the company of the Mayor.

Men wear a suit when they are in the company of the Governor.

Men wear a suit when they are in the company of the President.

Sadly, this is too true!

Some men don’t dress up for church anymore!

  • How important is church to you?
  • If it doesn’t mean much,  your choice of attire will soon reflect your opinion.
  • Being in the presence of the Lord, is the most important part of my day.
  • I will always dress up for the occasion.

Written by Martyn Ballestero

August 5, 2012 at 11:01 am