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Some Signs You Are Leaving

There are some things about leaving that are a dead give-a-way, even to the untrained observer. Whether it’s in a marriage, a friendship or a fellowship, there are still signs.

I do not submit that all of these signs must be experienced before there is a departure. But anyone of these by itself should raise a flag of warning.

Many of these signs are the same for both men and women.

Some Signs She Is Leaving You.

• She no longer confides in you.
• She does her best to avoid you by staying out late.
• She doesn’t seem glad to see you when you get home.
• She doesn’t want to hold hands with you.
•  She doesn’t want to be touched, kissed or hugged by you.
• When you try to kiss her, she turns her head so that you kiss her on the cheek.
• Her friends and family act different around you because she has told them that she plans to leave you.
• She increases her weekly workouts.
• Her hug is different.
• She gets a new cell phone.
• She leaves the room to take calls.
• If she can’t leave the room, she doesn’t answer her phone because you are there.
• She changes her dress style.
• She changes her hairstyle.
• She is more concerned about her appearance than you remember her being before.
• Her work hours suddenly change.
• She often mopes around the house, but before she goes out, she always perks up.
• She suddenly wants a new body enhancement.
• She accuses you of flirting with or wanting to be with other women.
• She’s critical of everything you do.
• She spends more hours on the computer than before.

Some Signs He Is Leaving You.

• His computer now has a password when it didn’t before.
• He now wipes out the history files on his computer.
• He switches the computer screen when you walk into the room or tries to hide the screen from you.
• He starts wearing cologne.
• He changes is hairstyle.
• You catch him in a number small lies.
• He seems to have less money to do things.
• He doesn’t want to go out and do things with you.
• Your intuition is screaming at you that something is just not quite right.
• He calls you paranoid, psycho, jealous, unreasonable and crazy.
• He doesn’t instant message you as often.
• He doesn’t call or send emails as often.
• Or he starts sending more of them to cover up.
• He is unavailable when he used to available.
• You no longer receive gifts or presents, like in the old days.
• His work hours have suddenly changed.
• He now has more weekend or over night trips.
• He works later at the office than he used to.
• He has become more emotionally distant.
• When you ask what’s going on with him he says it’s just his work.
• He’s tired or he’s stressed or has a lot on his mind.
• He often mopes around the house.
• Before he goes out however, he perks up.
• He says that he is misunderstood and unappreciated at home.
• He looks for a reason to leave the house.
• When he comes home, all he wants to do is sleep.
• He buys a sports car. Maybe even a convertible, or the color red.
• He accuses you of flirting with other men.
• He criticizes the way you look or the way you do things.
• He spends more hours on the computer than before.
• He acts passive toward your affection.

Now, Let’s Take This Subject Into Another Dimension! Let’s Talk About You And Your Church.

Some Signs You’re Leaving Your Church.

• You start finding fault
• You undermine the leadership.
• You continually find ways to express your dissatisfaction.
• You express excitement over another church’s progress.
• You resign your position.
• You detach yourself from all of your commitments.
• You are no longer faithful to church.
• You don’t answer or return the pastor’s call.
• You avoid the pastor.
• Others notice how critical you are.
• Your prayer life has changed.
• Your worship is empty, it’s not the same.
• You’re not faithful with your tithe.
• You moved to the back of the congregation
• You are more excited about worldly things than godly things.
• You no longer dress the same.
• You no longer look the same.
• You stop caring what the pastor or the bible says.
• You stopped saying amen.
• You always hang around with backslidden or worldly people.
• You justify your carnal activities
• You become offended.
• You can’t stop talking about what offended you.
• You rationalize your disobedience.
• You always have an excuse not to obey standards.
• You become a lover of pleasure more than a lover of God.
• You have more friends out of church than in church.
• All you see are hypocrites in the church.
• You stop giving in the offering
• You stop giving of your time.
• You stop serving.
• You disconnect with your church friends.
• You make decisions without including the man of God.
• You made the choice to go against your pastor’s wishes.
• You resent being accountable.
• You disconnect with your pastor.

Are you showing signs of leaving?

I don’t know about you, but I’m not going anywhere. I’m not leaving!