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Shouldn’t Porn Viewers Be Called Adulterers Too?

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Shouldn’t Porn Viewers Be Called Adulterers Too?

God chose to create a helpmate that would be most desirable in the eyes of Adam. He succeeded and did a perfect job in the creation of Eve.

The plan was for man and woman to live together in a bond that was secure from sensual influences outside of the sanctity of their marriage. They each were given power over the others emotions and senses.

1Cor 7:4 The wife hath not power of her own body, but the husband: and likewise also the husband hath not power of his own body, but the wife.

When we step out of the safety of our house to go to work, for example, we no doubt will soon see someone of the opposite gender. For most men, it is a non-event that is completely ignored. No untoward stimuli is involved in their public observations.

For others, the looking is what triggers a chain of events that makes them vulnerable for a horrible downfall. They ogle and allow their mind and their thoughts to join in creating an ungodly fantasy.

When Jesus told His hearers, that when a man looked longingly upon a woman other than his wife, he was guilty of adultery in his heart.

Matt 5:28 But I say unto you, That whosoever looketh on a woman to lust after her hath committed adultery with her already in his heart.

Unlike our generation, no one listening to the sermon Jesus preached that day ever heard of the word porn or pornography. They computerclipartunderstood clearly though that improperly looking upon a woman was not pleasing to God.

Hotel staff members tell me their highest room porn rentals of the year (on the room’s TV) is during men’s conferences and youth conferences. God help!

Today, with all the promotion of books, magazines and the Internet, experiencing adultery in the heart, is at an all time high… even in the privacy of your own home.

If what Jesus said is applied to the current porn industry, then it is possible to never see the ‘actress’ live and in real life, and yet watch her online and be guilty of adultery in your heart.

Why is it that those who are known to view pornography are not called adulterers? Isn’t that what they are?

If porn viewers are guilty of adultery, then they need to repent for that. Sir, please carefully guard yourself, your home, your relationship with your wife, and your eternal future. It quickly becomes an addiction that may possibly lead to, or accompany your moral failure.

Repentance (confessing) is the first step. Is the spirit of adultery in your heart? It doesn’t have to stay there. Forsaking is the next step you must take. Then, thirdly, I recommend a good old-fashioned praying through! Accountability will help keep you and your wife safe.

  • The Repentance,
  • Forsaking and a
  • Renewing of the Holy Ghost is imperative!
  • Make yourself accountable.

The Psalmist prayed, ‘Create in me a clean heart.’ That should be the prayer of every man who desires to make heaven his home, and his home a heaven.

Now, get up from your computer and go spend some time showing attention to that beautiful bride you pledged your ‘I Do’ to!!

You Won’t Be Sorry!

Written by Martyn Ballestero

March 8, 2013 at 12:00 am

14 Responses

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  1. Pornography is the hardest addiction to break. Young person please take my advice, don’t get wrapped up in this. It’s not worth it, I have battled this since I got in church it is the hardest fight to win. You will look upon women and dread the thoughts that come into your mind daily. There is nothing worse than trying to live for God and have this fight. you will never be the same with this sin.

    anonymous

    March 8, 2013 at 12:28 am

  2. I am so glad Christ is faithful to His Bride. Thank you again Elder for a so needed reminder. Society is so promiscuous and becoming even worse as time goes on.

    Mark S McKinney

    March 8, 2013 at 12:56 am

  3. Amen, Elder! This has become a great problem for the Church, it is an addiction that is relentless in its destruction of lives, families, marriages and fellowships! Thank you for saying it plain and to the point! God help our youth to heed the warning and shun this defilement and if defiled to repent and be cleansed and whole!

    D.L.Morris

    March 8, 2013 at 2:16 am

  4. I agree with this article. But at the same time I have to say it is a bit one sided. Statistically in America just as many women are porn watchers as men. Any more it’s not just men and boys but girls, boys, teens, men, women. No one is immune. Jut as many women are addicted to hardcore porno. And I also believe that porno has turned many a people into a homosexual. The spirit isn’t innocent and you can’t decide your choice of perversion. That spirit will tell you, sir or maddam.

    J_allen

    March 8, 2013 at 6:55 am

    • ‘One sided’? Absolutely! I meant for it to be. I chose to focus on the men. Evidently that was a sore spot. I meant for men to stand up and take responsibility as the leaders of the home. If they clean up, hopefully they will clean their houses too.

      I understand this is a perverted generation and not much different from the Biblical Sodom and Gomorrah. God cannot be happy with us. As to your statics, some will find them debatable, but then this site is not a host for debates or argument.

      Thank you for your response.

      mjb

      Martyn Ballestero

      March 8, 2013 at 9:42 am

      • No sir not a sore spot in the sense most would think I’ve been studying for a message I’m preaching soon and have been looking at some statistics. I realized that women and girls are just as much addicted to pornography as men, yet In all the years I’ve been in church(conservative apostolic church) I think I have heard one time preached on women and porno. I agree 100% that men are the head of the household and should be leaders in both spiritual and physical things. I also didn’t want to take away or sound smart. I just firmly believe there is a serious problem in Pentecost and that’s the subject you’ve talked about. I both agree with you AND believe that it affects and ensures women just as much as men.

        J_allen

        March 8, 2013 at 10:49 am

  5. As a Charedi ( Ultra Orthodox) Jew I really enjoy reading your blog.Our parents and grandparents fought hard against TV and vcr and worldly customs of dress. It takes men with a burden and a love for the next generation to fight these things. We have taken a pretty strict stand on internet I will present it here maybe some of you could benefit from it or add to it.
    1. Parents with children attending our schools must sign a paper stating they have no internet in the home.
    2. In the office it must have an approved filter and it must be in public view.
    3. cell phone have no internet or picture or video capacity.
    I would enjoy your feedback on these topics.

    Yisroel

    March 8, 2013 at 9:39 am

    • Thank you for taking the time to read my blog and comment. I am thrilled to find others who unashamedly stand against the worldliness and sinfulness of our day. I appreciate your post very much.

      Thank you for sharing these student requirements. I know longer pastor, but my pastor friends have conservative schools with similar requirements for their students and members. I think this is excellent.

      Thank you for having a conscience that strives to be holy in an unholy world.

      Martyn Ballestero

      March 8, 2013 at 10:04 am

      • I” have never seen The Righteous forsaken nor His Seed begging for bread”. WE need to cry out against worldliness. Weep with me for the sin of the nation in which we reside.My heart breaks for the people. We are in the same situation as the Prophet Noach. We must stand against the evil of this time…. my heart bleeds .

        Yisroel

        March 8, 2013 at 5:41 pm

      • Amen. I will weep with you and cry out aloud.

        Martyn Ballestero

        March 8, 2013 at 6:49 pm

  6. Excellent, well written, and needed!!!

    kennethbow

    March 8, 2013 at 10:58 am

  7. Excellent article elder! Can I add as well that there are many books that are written by worldly authors that are very graphic in their sexual detail. Even though these books do not have pictures – it is still pornography just the same. The words written paint a very clear picture of what is going on and forces the reader to use their imagination to picture what they are describing. Our public libraries are full of them and are very easily accessed by anyone. Bottom line – just because a book doesn’t include pictures – it’s still pornography.

    Tamra

    March 9, 2013 at 11:42 am

  8. Amen, Pastor Kelley just finished a “Bible study” on this. Keep on the firing line!

    Brian Enochs

    March 9, 2013 at 4:47 pm

  9. Excellent article! I was in a 22-year marriage with a man who was addicted to internet pornography and would not get help. He was the children’s minister and I was the church secretary. We had 3 children and now my family torn apart as a result. He justified the online sex because it wasn’t physical.

    God has now blessed me with a faithful man and I regret that I spent all those years fighting to keep my first marriage. Unless God intervenes, the addiction is not to be broken.

    Kathy Parker

    April 24, 2013 at 9:40 pm


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