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Old Grandfathers Are A Very Odd Breed.

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Old grandfathers are a very odd breed. They are, for the most part, more tolerant in their judgment of others because of their years. Yet, they are fixated with the age-old belief that, “They don’t make them like they used to.” Therefore, when an old dad looks a younger dad, he looks at him through the eyes of experience and with critical understanding. As a result, the old guys often shake their heads at the newer generation of dads.

But there are six younger dads that this old man doesn’t shake his head at. He only beams with grateful admiration as he observers the wonderful outpouring of love and guidance each of them in their own way provide for their families. He has to thank God everyday that his grandchildren have a loving father like them in their home.

I am talking about some men who deserve every honor a Father’s Day can provide. It would be an impossibility to show them too much thanks for the way they give of themselves and their time to their children. In a generation when many dads may be doing everything wrong, there are those who are doing everything right! They are loving, affectionate and take time for their children.

These men just happen to be related to me. My son (in-law): Brandon Hartzell, and my four sons: Anthony Ballestero, Bryan Ballestero, Martyn Ballestero II, and Andrew Ballestero. These men all make me so very proud and thankful to God. I fiercely love them all!

 

 

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Bryan Ballestero

 

 

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Anthony Ballestero

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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Andrew Ballestero

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Martyn Ballestero II

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Brandon Hartzell

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Jeremy Branham

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

(I must mention my wonderful nephew, (son of my sister Carlene.), Jeremy Branham who without a father in his life to guide him became everything a model father should be. He makes me proud too!)

Thank you my Sons, for fifteen wonderful grandchildren!! I wish you a very Happy Father’s Day!

 

 

 

 

Written by Martyn Ballestero

June 17, 2016 at 12:51 pm

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A Nursing Father

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A Nursing Father

A Nursing Father? Yes! That’s how Moses saw his own role as leader of the Children of Israel. He saw himself as a nursing father to them. They were often rebellious, unwilling, unbelieving and hard to control. Yet, he constantly nurtured and guided them. He mothered the people of God.

Sure he depended solely on Jehovah to direct his every word. Yes he daily had to ask for Divine guidance and support. But it was up to Moses how and in what manner he dispensed the instructions of righteousness. He had to nurse them all into understanding and believing. He mothered them from a promise to a possession.

  • They craved their old life in Egypt.
  • They wanted idols like the heathen had.
  • They complained about the manna.
  • They fussed about Moses’ authority.
  • Yet they were helpless without him.

1. Moses Felt Like He Was A Nursing Father,

Numbers 11:12 Have I conceived all this people? have I begotten them, that thou shouldest say unto me, Carry them in thy bosom, as a nursing father beareth the sucking child, unto the land which thou swarest unto their fathers?

Moses did not ask for this role. It was imposed upon him. God saw his heart and knew this would be the man who would nurse and nurture the Israelites.

  • As a nursing father, he nurtured a nation into the Promised Land.
  • As a nursing father, he provided guidance and strength for them during the harshest of times.
  • As a nursing father, he gave of himself completely.
  • As a nursing father, he pled for their very lives and survival before God.
  • As a nursing father, if God had killed all the disobedient Israelites, he was willing to die with them.
  • As a nursing father, he gave his very life for them.
  • As a nursing father, he has been remembered by Israel to this day as their hero and their father.
  • He nurtured them even though they were a thankless group of people.

Moses went to school in the wilderness and trained to be a nursing father for forty years as a shepherd. As a shepherd under God, he provided guidance, protection and provision for Israel when they couldn’t take care of themselves.

2. Job Was A Nursing Father

Job 1:4 And his sons went and feasted in their houses, every one his day; and sent and called for their three sisters to eat and to drink with them.

Job 1:5 And it was so, when the days of their feasting were gone about, that Job sent and sanctified them, and rose up early in the morning, and offered burnt offerings according to the number of them all: for Job said, It may be that my sons have sinned, and cursed God in their hearts. Thus did Job continually.

Job prayed and sacrificed every day to God for his children, just incase one of them might have sinned or thought bad thoughts. His life was an example of love, thoughtfulness and righteousness to his children.

3. Joshua Was A Nursing Father

Joshua 24:15 … but as for me and my house, we will serve the Lord.

  • As a nurturing father, he chose the proper life for his children.

4. The Apostle John Was A Nursing Father

3 John 1:4 I have no greater joy than to hear that my children walk in truth.

  • Nothing makes a nursing father happier than to know his children are living for God.

5. A Pastor Is A Nursing Father

There are a lot of pastors and teachers in the church world, but not many of them are fathers.

1 Corinthians 4:15 For though ye have ten thousand instructors in Christ, yet have ye not many fathers: for in Christ Jesus I have begotten you through the gospel.

A pastor is not called to be neither a politician, neither is he to be a lord over God’s heritage. With Divine guidance, a pastor is meant to nurture new babes in Christ into spiritual maturity.

  • He teaches the flock over which God has given him the oversight.
  • He cares what happens to every one of the flock.
  • He prays daily for those in need.
  • He visits the sick.
  • He prays in the altar with the wayward and the sinful.
  • He goes a fast with those that need a miracle.
  • He prays for God to give him a word of comfort for those in pain.
  • He speaks to the wayward and directs them back onto the right way.
  • He gives his life for those God has given to him.
  • He doesn’t preach the love of God with a closed fist.
  • He doesn’t try to run see how many he can run off, but how many he can get in.
  • He doesn’t throw souls away.
  • He will even be standing beside every one God has given to him in the Judgment giving an account.
  • He is to all who hear him, a nursing father.

Thank God For Our Pastor, Our ‘Other Father’

6. As A Dad, Are You A Nursing Father?

Heaven gave you precious little lives to provide and to care for. A father is deemed to be a good father when he loves his children and provides a good home life and example for them.

  • A father protects his children from all harm.
  • He guides their little minds and their lives in the ways of right.
  • He shows them how to live for God.
  • He displays tenderness and affection to their mother and to them, and thereby defines to his children the role of a nursing father.

As A Nursing Father

  • He walks the floor with his fretting baby at night.
  • As a nursing father, he provides for his family, regardless of how well he feels.
  • As a nursing father, he willing sacrifices for his family.
  • As a nursing father, he cries with his hurting children.
  • As a nursing father, he comforts and holds his babies when they need him to.
  • As a nursing father, he sometimes has to say no, to protect them.
  • As a nursing father, he provides reassurance of love, even in correction. (Especially in correction.)
  • As a nursing father, he is not harsh, but loving, not weak, but gentle.
  • As a nursing father, he is firm, but not mean.
  • As a nursing father, he provides protection and safety for his home.

Some fathers do not become involved in their children’s lives. What a loss and what a shame!

The Commandment To Be A Nursing (Nurturing) Father

Ephesians 6:4 And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.

Love them babies like your heavenly father loves you. Life’s greatest joy of fatherhood is the loving and the nurturing.

Thank God For Nurturing Fathers!

 

 

Written by Martyn Ballestero

June 14, 2014 at 3:50 pm

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“Lest They Be Discouraged”

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“Lest They Be Discouraged”

Every one is grateful for a kind word of encouragement. Dreams and ideals can be very fragile and easily destroyed, especially in the early stages of life.

Most find it easy to gravitate towards those who look favorably upon us. Not many can thrive in an environment of constant criticism, hostility and contempt.

I have never met a person sick enough to rejoice over discouraging someone from accomplishing that which is good. Neither can I believe a good father would be happy he made his child so discouraged they quit going to church.

My mind cannot imagine a Spirit-filled father treating his children so horrible that they lose all desire to go to church because of him.

No generation of believers has evidently been exempt from stupid acting fathers. It was a problem big enough to be mentioned In Paul’s writings to the Colossians and the Ephesians.

Colossians 3:21 Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

No father in his right mind would say he chose to talk his child out of living for God. Evidently then, when strength turns into harshness, un-repairable damage could be done.

Ephesians 6:4 And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.

 

There Is No Room In The Kingdom Of God For Harshness.

  • Not in the pulpit
  • Not in the church or out
  • Not between husbands and wives
  • Not between fathers and their children

Dads? We don’t show strength by being harsh (strict is what we might think) Harshness isn’t wisdom, it isn’t love, it isn’t mercy, it isn’t the fruit of the Spirit, it isn’t productive, and It isn’t pleasing to God.

Harshness kills love, it kills respect, it kills hope, it kills family structure, and it kills every pleasant memory of childhood.

One time, when my oldest children sons were up in their teens, I made a strict ruling in my home. Within two days I saw the hurt that my ruling had caused for all of my children.

mjb1990's_0059I began to meditate and pray about the problem and felt the Lord impress me to repent to my children. My first reaction was to be repulsed at the thought. I could only imagine what negative thoughts my children would think of me if I did that. My very next thought was… “What will they think of me if I don’t repent?”

I called a family meeting and we all sat down in the living room. I looked at my five beautiful children and wife, and I began to be filled with great sorrow for what damage I had already done. Things would only get worse if I didn’t humble myself and repent now.

I began if sorrowful tones: “I made a bad ruling two days ago that has brought much pain to my family. I am changing that ruling right now. I was very wrong. What I did has hurt you, the very ones I love.

I am so sorry! Would you please forgive me? I never want to make a decision again that would ever bring pain to any of you. I love you!

  • Next came tears in the room.
  • Next came the hugs and smooches.
  • Next came sweet comments, some said aloud and some whispered in my ear.
  • Next came a room filled with seven teary-eyed smiling people expressing love for each other.

 

The Fruit Of The Spirit Includes Gentleness

Galatians 5:22 But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, longsuffering, gentleness, goodness, faith,

Galatians 5:23 Meekness, temperance: against such there is no law.

 

God’s Wisdom Is Peaceable And Gentle

James 3:16 For where envying and strife is, there is confusion and every evil work.

James 3:17 But the wisdom that is from above is first pure, then peaceable, gentle, and easy to be intreated, full of mercy and good fruits, without partiality, and without hypocrisy.

James 3:18 And the fruit of righteousness is sown in peace of them that make peace.

Godly dads don’t discourage their children in living for God. Godly dads live so that they create a craving in their family’s hearts to live for the Lord too.

If a man yields his strengths to God’s ways, submitting himself and his emotions. Then will he manifest the Fruits of the Spirit, transforming his home into a place of comfort, peace and delight.

Daddy? Go Make This A Very Happy Father’s Day For Your Family!

(You’re Kids Are Watching!)

Written by Martyn Ballestero

June 7, 2014 at 12:31 pm

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I Can’t Think Of Anything Good To Say About Him

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I Can’t Think Of Anything Good To Say About Him

My youngest son Andrew just dropped me off at the Airport Shuttle. I am flying to Atlanta today to finish a revival there. He is such a wonderful and caring son. He makes me very proud to be his father. He tells me all the time how much he loves and appreciates me.

My wife and I are blessed to have one daughter, Marisa Hartzell and four sons… Anthony, Bryan, Martyn II, and Andy. My heart tells me they are the best kids in the world.

Knowing that Sunday is Father’s Day. I am content knowing I’ve gotten some Father’s Day hugs and wishes already. My children always make me tear up with their expressions of love and honor.

In savoring the moments with Andy today, I also enjoyed a momentary flashback to a Father’s Day nearly 25 years ago in Christ Temple in South Bend, Indiana where I was pastor.

The Sunday School teacher stood in front of the row of small children on the platform. Children were asked to say what the loved the most about their Daddy. They were required to start by saying… “I love my Daddy because…”

When each one finished, they passed the microphone down to the next child.

They said things like:

  • I love my Daddy because… he plays ball with me.
  • I love my Daddy because… he takes me fishing.
  • I love my Daddy because… he helps me with my homework.
  • I love my Daddy because… he likes to play games with me.
  • I love my Daddy because… he buys me things.
  • I love my Daddy because… he fixes my bike.
  • I love my Daddy because… he reads me stories.

Then they handed the microphone to Andrew. His timid little voice said, “I love my Daddy because…

“Ahhhhh…

“Because…

“Ahhhhh…

“Ummm…”

Then he passed the microphone to the next kid as he apologetically said to the audience while shrugging his shoulders.

“I can’t think of anything, he finally said with a little smile in the corner of his mouth.”

The whole church roared with laughter.

I laughed the hardest.

Written by Martyn Ballestero

June 19, 2010 at 10:10 am

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