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Is This How God Rates Different Levels Of Evil Doers?

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Are There Some That Are Worse Than Plain Old Sinners?

Sinners lie, cheat, commit murder, get high on drugs, drink, commit fornication and adultery.

What about Atheists? Are they worse than just plain sinners?

What about Infidels? Are they lower than the rest?

Is there anything worse than being an Infidel?

You say Yes?

Then, what is worse than an Infidel?

Sinners

 

 

 

Infidel

 

 

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Written by Martyn Ballestero

April 13, 2014 at 6:02 pm

Stupid Men With Smart Wives

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Stupid Men With Smart Wives

How does that happen? It’s not all that uncommon today to see a stupid man with a smart wife. It makes everyone wonder about how they met and what was the attraction.

If she is so smart, why did she marry him? Did he con her? Did he keep his real self hidden from view until he married? Was she blinded by love?

Evidently, too many men have turned out to be, or act stupid after their marriage. If the wife had known how stupid he really was when they were courting, she quite possible would have never looked at him twice let alone married him.

I can even name a couple pretty stupid men in the Bible that were married to smart wives.

 

But, Let Me Just Focus On One, A Man Named Who Was Actually Named ‘Stupid’.

That’s Right, There Once Was A Man Named Stupid.

  • That’s what his mama named him.
  • He was called Nabal.
  • Nabal = ‘Fool, Senseless’ (Hitchcock’s Dictionary of Bible Names)
  • When it came to stupid, Nabal’s mama made sure he got to sit at the head of the class.
  • He turned out to be the name they called him.

 


 

Nabal

He Was A Very Great Man, But He Was Also The Ultimate Senseless Fool.

1 Sam. 25:2 And there was a man in Maon, whose possessions were in Carmel; and the man was very great, and he had three thousand sheep, and a thousand goats: and he was shearing his sheep in Carmel.

  • He was considered great because of what he had going on for himself.
  • He had local respect and recognition.
  • He had great means.
  • He had a wonderful wife.

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Nabal Didn’t Fear God Nor Man

  • Nabal was rich but he was also harsh and evil in his dealings. (1 Sam. 25:3).
  • He didn’t care about helping others.
  • He was focused on building his own kingdom, not helping God’s or anyone else’s.

 

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1 Sam. 25:3 Now the name of the man was Nabal; and the name of his wife Abigail: and she was a woman of good understanding, and of a beautiful countenance: but the man was churlish and evil in his doings; and he was of the house of Caleb.

  • She was Smart.
  • She was Beautiful.
  • She was Unappreciated.
  • She was Ignored.
  • He was Evil.
  • He was Wicked
  • But he came from a great family… Caleb’s
  • A goodly heritage and background evidently is not enough. He was still stupid in his actions.
  • He was Churlish – (rude, mean-spirited, discourteous, uncivil, impolite).
  • He didn’t deserve his wonderful wife.
  • Abigail was the very image of beauty, wisdom and grace.

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No One Could Talk To Him

  • He was Mr. Macho.
  • He refused to listen to his wife or anyone else.
  • Stupid men view their wives as inferior.
  • Sometimes that attitude erupts in anger, irrational behavior and even violence.
  • A man couldn’t speak to him. 1Sam 25:17
  • No one could reason with him.
  • He was always right, everyone else was wrong.
  • Nabal never got delivered from his nature.

 

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Abigail

  • Abigail is described as “intelligent” and she is praised in 1Sam 25:33 because of her discernment.
  • But Nabal never benefited from his wife’s wisdom.
  • They were never a team in his mind.
  • She even stopped David and his men from attacking Nabal and killing him.
  • She fell on the ground before David to apologize for her husband and beg for mercy.
  • David listened to Abigail.
  • Abigail described her husband in a very sad way when she made her plea.
  • 1Sam 25:25 Let not my lord, I pray thee, regard this man of Belial, even Nabal: for as his name is, so is he; Nabal is his name, and folly is with him:
  • She said: “Please disregard my worthless husband, Nabal, is his name and it means foolish. That’s what he is.

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600-David-Abigail25Abigail Saved Nabal’s Life

  • He refused to even feed the hungry men that were with David. All they had asked for a piece of bread.
  • He ordered them off of his property.
  • When Abigail heard what happened, she immediately went to David’s camp and apologized.
  • Abigail’s actions are the only thing kept David from slaughtering Nabal and his men.
  • When she got home she wanted to tell her husband what she had just done but he was too drunk to talk to anyone.
  • She had to wait till he sobered up the next morning, before she could speak to him.

 

Nabal Heart Died Within Him

1 Sam. 25:37 But it came to pass in the morning, when the wine was gone out of Nabal, and his wife had told him these things, that his heart died within him, and he became as a stone.

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Some Kinds Of Stupid, No One Can Fix. That’s When God Stepped In.

1 Sam. 25:38 And it came to pass about ten days after, that the Lord smote Nabal, that he died.

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Can Anyone Fix Stupid?

I Don’t Know For Sure.

Here’s How I Would Try To Fix Stupid In My Life.

1. Rekindle The Fear Of The Lord In My Life.

Prov 9:10 The fear of the LORD is the beginning of wisdom: and the knowledge of the holy is understanding.

2. Repent – Turn Around.

3. Be a Man That Someone Can Talk To. Whether Pastor, Friend or Wife. Be Approachable.

4. Humble Myself Before God And Man… Including My Wife.

5. Admit I’m Wrong, Especially To My Wife And Family.

6. Willingly Take Godly Instruction. From The Bible, My Pastor, My Friends, And My Wife.

7. Never Let My Heart Die And Turn To Stone. (Because I Know What Happens In The Next Verse. That’s when God stepped in.)

 


 

So, if you ever see a stupid man with a smart and beautiful wife… pray for him, but pray more for her. She has a great big cross to bear in life.

Written by Martyn Ballestero

April 12, 2014 at 10:21 am

Are You Worth Fighting For?

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Are You Worth Fighting For?

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We have all heard uncomplimentary remarks by old timers about those people they considered

worthless and no good. They said things like:

  • “Ah, they’re not worth the lead it would take to blow…”
  • “They’re not worth their salt.”

We have all learned that helping some people can be an exercise in frustration and futility. In choosing our battles and those we fight for, where do we draw a line and fight? When do we throw in the towel?

Go To God’s Word And Examples For Guidance.

Moses – Israel

God was so angry at Israel because of their quickness to backslide, He wanted to kill them and start all over. He told His plan to Moses.

Exodus 32:31 And Moses returned unto the LORD, and said, Oh, this people have sinned a great sin, and have made them gods of gold.

Exodus 32:32 Yet now, if thou wilt forgive their sin–; and if not, blot me, I pray thee, out of thy book which thou hast written.

Moses knew the wickedness of Israel and although he could never justify their actions, he refused to give up on them. He told God; if You are going to blot them out, then just blot me out too. Moses fought for Israel even in their disobedience and wickedness.

Moses Persuaded God To Show Mercy.

Samuel – King Saul

1 Samuel 15:10 Then came the word of the LORD unto Samuel, saying,

1 Samuel 15:11 It repenteth me that I have set up Saul to be king: for he is turned back from following me, and hath not performed my commandments. And it grieved Samuel; and he cried unto the LORD all night.

Saul was reckless in his life choices and was disobedient to God’s Word. Samuel, even with all his pristine character and godliness, could not help but cry for Saul. Saul wasn’t even crying for himself. Yet Samuel fought with tear all night long.

Pastors – Saints and Sinners

Certainly we can be grateful to live at a time when God’s Mercy is so readily available. Yet, in spite of this, a pastor’s job is never done. He does his best to keep fighting for every soul. He fights for those who want help. He even fights for those who don’t seem to be fighting for themselves.

There Is No Such Thing As A ‘Throw-A-Way Soul.”

Paul – Timothy

2 Timothy 2:25 In meekness instructing those that oppose themselves; if God peradventure will give them repentance to the acknowledging of the truth;

2 Timothy 2:26 And that they may recover themselves out of the snare of the devil, who are taken captive by him at his will.

Paul’s advice to Pastor Timothy was, don’t be harsh. These sinful people are their own problem. They can’t blame anyone else but themselves. It just may be that God will let them repent and admit the truth about themselves. It may be that God will let them recover and be restored. So, don’t give up on them. Fight for them. They aren’t doing a very good job of fighting for themselves. They need you.

  • Fight for their souls.
  • Fight for their mercy.
  • Fight for their forgiveness.
  • Fight for their restoration.
  • Fight for their marriage.
  • Fight for their family.
  • Fight for their future.
  • Fight for their eternity.
  • Fight for them…

Remember:

1 Corinthians 6:11 And such were some of you: but ye are washed, but ye are sanctified, but ye are justified in the name of the Lord Jesus, and by the Spirit of our God.

Are You Worth Fighting For? Absolutely!

Written by Martyn Ballestero

March 17, 2014 at 1:52 pm

The Curse Of The Permissive Parent And Pastor

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The Curse Of The Permissive Parent And Pastor

My critics might say that this blog post is written with a bad spirit, I pray not, but it if so, may the Lord forgive me. Please allow me to give an altar call of sorts.

Parents

My beloved wife and I may be senior citizens now, but we have learned a few things about raising a family throughout the years. We have been richly blessed of the Lord with five of the most wonderful children parents could ever pray to have. But, it’s the raising of them that requires the help of the Lord and wisdom of a Solomon.

I cannot take credit for the wisdom part, (My wife is blessed with good common sense.) but we both have been greatly helped by our dear parents, by the Lord and by His Word.

Parents have to learn when to say Yes, and when to say No. Sometimes, both words are hard to say.

A child that never hears the word No while growing up, will most likely have a difficult time saying No to themselves as an adult.

We all enjoy the cute personality displays in our children. We love their antics and brag on their accomplishments. It’s all part of being a parent.

But, no one likes to see a tantrum when a child doesn’t get his or her way. But, it does happen. It happens at home, in Wal-Mart, in the car and even at church.

Many times a parent must say No to their darling child for it’s own good. Those pleading eyes and their sweet-talking may melt your heart. Remember however, your sweet innocent little child has learned long ago how to work the family system and manipulate your emotions. Oh yes.

When we see a well-mannered teen or young adult, we know they didn’t become that way just by themselves. There was someone in their life that helped make and mold them into that young adult we admire.

What Type Of Children Do Permissive Parents Produce?

·      Spoiled brats?

·      Children that must always have their own way?

·      Children that feel free to talk back to their parents?

·      Undisciplined and disrespectful that will bring their parents shame?

Who in their right mind would want to be married to someone that carried that same spoiled brat attitude into their adult life?

Children who have been blessed with loving parents, who were not afraid to say No, receive the most compliments in life. Just saying.

Under the disguise of being merciful and loving, some have permitted the development of little monsters in their own home.

 

The Curse Of The Permissive Parent Is That Your Child Will Bring You Shame.

 

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Additional Reading:

Seven Signs Your Kid Is A Brat

http://www.care.com/child-care-permissive-parenting-7-signs-your-kid-is-a-brat-p1017-q6594347.html

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Pastors

Pastors also have to learn when to say Yes, and when to say No. Sometimes, both words are hard to say.

Remember the story of Eli, a High Priest in the Bible? He was a nice guy, a real nice guy… just weak. He was so weak he couldn’t say, No.

He was a High Priest over Israel. Yet, he would not judge the sins of his own sons. The boys were a disgrace to their father. They brought shame and reproach upon him, upon Israel and they angered God so much, that He killed them.

Eli’s sons, Hophni and Phinehas were priests, yet they showed great contempt for God’s Law and they openly sinned. No one dared cross them or complain. They made a great mockery in their execution of holy things in the Tabernacle.

KJV 1 Sam. 2:12 Now the sons of Eli were sons of Belial; they knew not the Lord.

ESV 1 Sam. 2:12 Now the sons of Eli were worthless men. They did not know the Lord.

Eli’s sons were guilty of great crimes, which brought destruction upon their father’s house. Their actions caused the Ark of God to be lost to the great enemy of Israel.

shmuel-a04b-eliPhinehas died in battle with the Philistines (1 Sam. 4: 4, 11); and his wife, on hearing of his death, gave birth to a son, whom she named Ichabod, saying, “The glory is departed from Israel” and then she died.

Upon hearing the news of the loss of the Ark in battle and the death of his sons, Eli fell from where he was sitting and broke his neck and died. Scripture says that Eli’s heart trembled for the Ark. That is very commendable. But why didn’t that same love for the Ark make him correct the sons that served the Ark with him?

A pastor that condones or excuses the sinfulness of his children will live long enough to regret the day he gave in to their pleas for permission to do wrong. As a pastor, you of all people should know that you really do not love your child when you:

  • Supply them with money for their habits.
  • Excuse their inability to keep a job even though they are married with children.
  • Refuse to believe they could ever be guilty of wrongdoing.
  • Excuse their prescription drug abuse.
  • Always take their side against their spouse.
  • Allow them on the platform while they are under the influence of a controlled substance to which they are addicted.
  • Ignoring their drinking problem.
  • Use them in leadership.
  • Overlook their moral problems.
  • Keep bailing them out of jail and sticking them behind the pulpit again.
  • Allow their tempers and threats to cause good people to leave church.
  • Have a different standard for the saint’s kids than for your own.

(Saints may not say anything to you, but they are not stupid. They see what is going on, but they keep on, as best they can, hoping you will correct the situation somehow.)

But If You Don’t…

You sir, have just become another Eli. God is not pleased with the shame you have allowed to be brought upon His house. It’s just a matter of time before the word Ichabod will be written again. Only this time, it will be written very close to you.

If you desire the glory of God to continue to bless and anoint the church you pastor. Take the oversight, reprove and rebuke with all long-suffering. Love what God loves, hate what God hates.

Under the disguise of being merciful and loving, some pastors have permitted the development of monsters.

The Curse Of The Permissive Pastor Is That Your Child Will Bring Shame Upon You And The House Of God.

I Promise You, The Glory Will Depart. Revival Will Not Stay.

Written by Martyn Ballestero

April 6, 2013 at 12:18 pm

Shouldn’t Porn Viewers Be Called Adulterers Too?

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Shouldn’t Porn Viewers Be Called Adulterers Too?

God chose to create a helpmate that would be most desirable in the eyes of Adam. He succeeded and did a perfect job in the creation of Eve.

The plan was for man and woman to live together in a bond that was secure from sensual influences outside of the sanctity of their marriage. They each were given power over the others emotions and senses.

1Cor 7:4 The wife hath not power of her own body, but the husband: and likewise also the husband hath not power of his own body, but the wife.

When we step out of the safety of our house to go to work, for example, we no doubt will soon see someone of the opposite gender. For most men, it is a non-event that is completely ignored. No untoward stimuli is involved in their public observations.

For others, the looking is what triggers a chain of events that makes them vulnerable for a horrible downfall. They ogle and allow their mind and their thoughts to join in creating an ungodly fantasy.

When Jesus told His hearers, that when a man looked longingly upon a woman other than his wife, he was guilty of adultery in his heart.

Matt 5:28 But I say unto you, That whosoever looketh on a woman to lust after her hath committed adultery with her already in his heart.

Unlike our generation, no one listening to the sermon Jesus preached that day ever heard of the word porn or pornography. They computerclipartunderstood clearly though that improperly looking upon a woman was not pleasing to God.

Hotel staff members tell me their highest room porn rentals of the year (on the room’s TV) is during men’s conferences and youth conferences. God help!

Today, with all the promotion of books, magazines and the Internet, experiencing adultery in the heart, is at an all time high… even in the privacy of your own home, since you can find online sites as www.snapchatnudes.net that have adult pictures online.

If what Jesus said is applied to the current porn industry, then it is possible to never see the ‘actress’ live and in real life, and yet watch her online and be guilty of adultery in your heart.

Why is it that those who are known to view pornography are not called adulterers? Isn’t that what they are?

If porn viewers are guilty of adultery, then they need to repent for that. Sir, please carefully guard yourself, your home, your relationship with your wife, and your eternal future. It quickly becomes an addiction that may possibly lead to, or accompany your moral failure.

Repentance (confessing) is the first step. Is the spirit of adultery in your heart? It doesn’t have to stay there. Forsaking is the next step you must take. Then, thirdly, I recommend a good old-fashioned praying through! Accountability will help keep you and your wife safe.

  • The Repentance,
  • Forsaking and a
  • Renewing of the Holy Ghost is imperative!
  • Make yourself accountable.

The Psalmist prayed, ‘Create in me a clean heart.’ That should be the prayer of every man who desires to make heaven his home, and his home a heaven.

Now, get up from your computer and go spend some time showing attention to that beautiful bride you pledged your ‘I Do’ to!!

You Won’t Be Sorry!

Written by Martyn Ballestero

March 8, 2013 at 12:00 am

The Ballestero Interview

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Earlier the year, I was honored to be with Pastor Shannon Burgess and the Jesus Name Pentecostal Church of Chehalis, Washington. Bro. Gabe Baker, the Youth Pastor, took time from his busy schedule to interview me. He asked many questions about my life and ministry. I am humbled by his interest and efforts. I also thank him from the bottom of my heart for including me in his passion to help other young ministers.

Part 1

Part 2.

Part 3.

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For additional media, follow this link to the Jesus Name Pentecostal Church website.

http://jnpc.org/media-center/video-gallery.html

Written by Martyn Ballestero

September 15, 2012 at 7:28 pm

A Private Company

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A Private Company

There exists a Private Company that specializes in secrecy, but is daily impacting lives and changing the world.

  1. This Company specializes in intense Membership training.
  2. Almost everyone in the Company eventually goes into some area of management.
  3. No unions are wanted or needed.
  4. Each local Company is autonomous. There is no Corporate Office.

 

At first, it is mandatory for every member of the Company to report in daily.

After tenure has been established, Members are encouraged to report in daily, but it is not mandatory.

From the first day in the Company, each Member’s position becomes secure.

Members might be ignored, laughed at, hated, loved, despised, or tolerated by other Team Members, but their position is locked in.

 

  • Each Member is encouraged to recruit a new Member into the Company.
  • Random cash bonuses may become available to all.
  • Each Team Member has the authority and ability to solve any Company problem of their choosing.
  • However, most Team Members create more problems than they ever solve.

 

Each One In The Company Chooses At What Level They Wish To Participate.

  • Yet, if they remain uninvolved, or uncommunicative, they still remain a part of the team.
  • Each Member has knowledge of a secret key to build up the Company or destroy it.

 

The Company is not allowed to go ‘public’ on Wall Street.

The Company never advertises on a billboard, radio, television or newspaper… Yet the growth rate is phenomenal.

Each Member, among their other duties, acts as an official Press Agent for the Company.

The public willingly believes whatever you, as the Company Press Agent, divulge.

 

  • Removal of a Member that has been recruited may take a court order, and is always traumatic.
  • Other Team Members may or may not help you on any given project. It’s their call.
  • Bankruptcy can’t even put the Company out of business.
  • There are never any dues

 

Occasionally there will be unannounced Staff Meetings, and it is important that all Members be there.

Seldom are these Meetings ever occasions for awards or commendations. They are always dreaded.

Any Member may call for a Staff Meeting.

Everyone knows who the Boss is.

 

  1. When the Boss dies, another takes that position without a vote or appointment. No election is ever held.
  2. Hurt feelings are a serious and common work hazard.
  3. Bitterness and Anger are the most common enemies of the Company’s existence and almost always brings disaster.
  4. Every Member has been known to support others on the Team in good times and bad.

 

Each Company Is Different. Some Are Involved In Activities Like:

  • Sports,
  • Politics,
  • Fitness,
  • Religion,
  • Food Preparation and Fine Dinning,
  • Money Management,
  • Travel,
  • Recreation,
  • Education,
  • Decorating,
  • Boating,
  • Big Game Hunting,
  • Child Care

 

Some welcome visitors, and provide a tour that almost always includes a free luncheon.

Others welcome the public by invitation only.

Security is highly prized in the Company.

Each local Company determines what benefits are desired, and when they should be dispersed.

 

  • The Company can survive and even thrive in capitalism or communism.
  • It matters not if it is in a country ruled by a King, a President, or a Dictator.
  • It matters not if it is located in an urban setting, rural or even in the ghetto.
  • It survives in spite of zoning laws, no parking signs, economic down turns, or holidays.

 

All Members retain their position for life.

There is no ‘30 and out’ requirement.

There is constant gossip at the water cooler.

Invasive Background Checks are not uncommon.

 

  1. Private calls are not frowned on, but rather encouraged.
  2. While dress codes differ, there are no uniforms or name tags.
  3. The Company will thrive without advertisement. Its name will never be seen on a billboard, in a commercial or a newspaper.
  4. The Company’s only means of public awareness is by word of mouth.

 

What Is This Company?

Where Can I Find One In My Area?

You’re Too Late.

You’ve Found It Already.

 

 

You Have Been A Working Member Of A Private Company For Years Already!

Thanks Right!

  • I’m talking about your Family.
  • Your Family!
  • Your Family is what you make it!
  • What are you making out of your Family?

Written by Martyn Ballestero

August 7, 2012 at 10:30 am

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